RIP Cheddar :(

[LaManuka]

“I will lend to you a bird” God said, “and teach you all you have to do,
And when I call her back to Heaven you will know she loved you too”

Anon

 

[WakaWaka]

Wow, a lovely way to describe life as we know it.

 

[wrench13]

Oh no ! I hate to read posts like this , especially from dedicated members who clearly love their birds. I had to make a donation in Cheddar's name to the Cornell Univ Avian Studies program, stipulated to be used exclusivey on parrot related studies and programs. I don't know how else to commemorate Cheddar's life with you.

 

[YUMgrinder]

Oh no ! I hate to read posts like this , especially from dedicated members who clearly love their birds. I had to make a donation in Cheddar's name to the Cornell Univ Avian Studies program, stipulated to be used exclusivey on parrot related studies and programs. I don't know how else to commemorate Cheddar's life with you.

Thank you, and thank you all for the kind words.

It's a week now since she left me. I miss her. I still tear up when I think of her. she should be here with me. I dont know why, or how, but the receipt from purchasing her last year popped up in my truck all of a sudden in a place it shouldn't have been. Not sure how it survived a year without me noticing it. She was exactly the same weight the day she died. 97 grams. She was up to 120 grams at one point. I was so proud of her but the weight gain didn't last.

Here's another photo of her from the day before she passed. Not sure why the photos are being turned on me here.....

 

[LaManuka]

She is telling you she is thankful for all the love you gave her, and that she’s still around, and that she will always with you, and always love you even if she can’t be with you anymore. She will never really leave your side.

 

[YUMgrinder]

Thanks that was beautiful. I found another cute video of her I'd like to share. The title says "he" but it must have been before we knew, or I just screwed up lol.

I want another nanday now so bad. She was special though.

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[Rozalka]

When I see Cheddar's pics and vids, I am sad that she isn't still with you

 

[tytbody]

Thanks that was beautiful. I found another cute video of her I'd like to share. The title says "he" but it must have been before we knew, or I just screwed up lol.

I want another nanday now so bad. She was special though.

https://youtu.be/bRP8YzfPxMI

so sorry for your loss. Please tell me how your pet shop experience went. was he tame?

how old was he?

Reason I ask is because I am looking at a Nanday from a pet shop also

 

[Terry57]

I am so very sorry for your loss of Cheddar. She was such a beauty and so obviously well loved. My heart breaks for you.

 

[Scott]

Nothing can ever replace Cheddar, but I hope the pictures and videos bring comfort as you grieve.

 

[Aratingettar]

She is telling you she is thankful for all the love you gave her, and that she’s still around, and that she will always with you, and always love you even if she can’t be with you anymore. She will never really leave your side.

So truly and so deeply heart-touching words. Made my eyes wet..

 

[YUMgrinder]

Thanks that was beautiful. I found another cute video of her I'd like to share. The title says "he" but it must have been before we knew, or I just screwed up lol.

I want another nanday now so bad. She was special though.

https://youtu.be/bRP8YzfPxMI

so sorry for your loss. Please tell me how your pet shop experience went. was he tame?

how old was he?

Reason I ask is because I am looking at a Nanday from a pet shop also

She had been at petco for awhile, and was losing weight. They took her off the store floor and put her in the "wellness center" which was a closet. I asked to see her anyway and she went straight for my neck and cuddled and wouldn't let go. They allowed me to take her for half off as the manager knew me and that I had birds, from there on things went well, she gained weight and was lively. She loved her grapes. I gave her as many as she wanted. I have bought a couple birds from my local store, and I like them but the breeder def screwed up with cheddar at some point. She was probably 6 months old when I got her, maybe less. She was only 1 and a half when she passed.

 

[YUMgrinder]

Nothing can ever replace Cheddar, but I hope the pictures and videos bring comfort as you grieve.

They do, but they also bring more pain.

 

[tytbody]

Thanks that was beautiful. I found another cute video of her I'd like to share. The title says "he" but it must have been before we knew, or I just screwed up lol.

I want another nanday now so bad. She was special though.

https://youtu.be/bRP8YzfPxMI

so sorry for your loss. Please tell me how your pet shop experience went. was he tame?

how old was he?

Reason I ask is because I am looking at a Nanday from a pet shop also

She had been at petco for awhile, and was losing weight. They took her off the store floor and put her in the "wellness center" which was a closet. I asked to see her anyway and she went straight for my neck and cuddled and wouldn't let go. They allowed me to take her for half off as the manager knew me and that I had birds, from there on things went well, she gained weight and was lively. She loved her grapes. I gave her as many as she wanted. I have bought a couple birds from my local store, and I like them but the breeder def screwed up with cheddar at some point. She was probably 6 months old when I got her, maybe less. She was only 1 and a half when she passed.

thank you. she wanted to to the rainbow bridge at home. not in a store

 

[Allee]

I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner. Deepest condolences for your loss, I'm so very sorry. I know the pain feels overwhelming and you can't imagine how you'll get past it, sadly there's no band-aid for grief, there's five stages and you have to get through all of them, then you start to heal. It sounds like you are really struggling with the ending, sometimes we are faced with awful decisions and even though we make the only decision we can in our loved one's best interest the final outcome is unthinkable, that doesn't mean you made the wrong decision. It helps to remember, our feathered friends live in the moment, their love for us is pure, they don't contemplate what might have been the way we do. You gave Cheddar so many happy moments and I admire your courage for wanting to be there for Cheddar no matter what it would have done to your heart, a lot of people can't find that kind of courage when those last moments arrive. Cheddar was never alone, you where with her every step of the journey.

 

[YUMgrinder]

I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner. Deepest condolences for your loss, I'm so very sorry. I know the pain feels overwhelming and you can't imagine how you'll get past it, sadly there's no band-aid for grief, there's five stages and you have to get through all of them, then you start to heal. It sounds like you are really struggling with the ending, sometimes we are faced with awful decisions and even though we make the only decision we can in our loved one's best interest the final outcome is unthinkable, that doesn't mean you made the wrong decision. It helps to remember, our feathered friends live in the moment, their love for us is pure, they don't contemplate what might have been the way we do. You gave Cheddar so many happy moments and I admire your courage for wanting to be there for Cheddar no matter what it would have done to your heart, a lot of people can't find that kind of courage when those last moments arrive. Cheddar was never alone, you where with her every step of the journey.

Thank you. I think the hardest part is the way she went. If I knew how badly it was gonna end I wouldn't have left her at the vet. I just wish I could've snuggled with her one last time. I am so thankful when the doc went to take her to the back, I stopped him and took cheddar in my hands and gave her a big old kiss right on the beak and I told her I'd see her later. I am so glad I got that last kiss in. every thought of her brings tears to my eyes. She won't let go of my heart, but I don't think I want her to let go... I still cry when I am alone, but don't tell anyone. I wouldn't want anyone I know to know I can cry lol

 

[Laurasea]

Something a late night sneaky cry is what's needed. When Burt The Bird passes I wasn't a member of the forum, so there was no one who understood my pain in my life. I'm so glad to be here now to say I understand , I care, and it warms my heart to see this community come together to support each other. I hope, because you seem like such a great bird person, that maybe a rescue parrot finds it's way to you to be saved . If it wasn't for my Burt, I wouldn't have rescued Penny.

 

[ChristaNL]

Cry ahead- it's healthy. (I'll never trust a person that does not shed tears oce in a while.)

They always tell us to rinse a wound to clean it and makes sure it heals well instead of festering-- tears are the way you clean the wounds of the heart and soul.

 

[tytbody]

I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner. Deepest condolences for your loss, I'm so very sorry. I know the pain feels overwhelming and you can't imagine how you'll get past it, sadly there's no band-aid for grief, there's five stages and you have to get through all of them, then you start to heal. It sounds like you are really struggling with the ending, sometimes we are faced with awful decisions and even though we make the only decision we can in our loved one's best interest the final outcome is unthinkable, that doesn't mean you made the wrong decision. It helps to remember, our feathered friends live in the moment, their love for us is pure, they don't contemplate what might have been the way we do. You gave Cheddar so many happy moments and I admire your courage for wanting to be there for Cheddar no matter what it would have done to your heart, a lot of people can't find that kind of courage when those last moments arrive. Cheddar was never alone, you where with her every step of the journey.

Thank you. I think the hardest part is the way she went. If I knew how badly it was gonna end I wouldn't have left her at the vet. I just wish I could've snuggled with her one last time. I am so thankful when the doc went to take her to the back, I stopped him and took cheddar in my hands and gave her a big old kiss right on the beak and I told her I'd see her later. I am so glad I got that last kiss in. every thought of her brings tears to my eyes. She won't let go of my heart, but I don't think I want her to let go... I still cry when I am alone, but don't tell anyone. I wouldn't want anyone I know to know I can cry lol

you are doing what is normal in the passing of a life. You will shed more and don't try to stop them.. It heals you.

 

[Sunnyclover]

Oh how all of this really hits home for me personally with my Nanday whom is also not quite right. Even so I do believe the Nanday Conure are a special type of bird. I am a member of a group on facebook for Nandays and I hear conflicting reports of their demeanor and behavior. Some say they are the sweetest birds alive while a majority said their bird is mean (matter of opinion) and tough as nails and not cuddly at all. I have experienced both sides of said beautiful creature and I have to say my journey with Finley has been very rewarding so far. I also think the Nanday Conure demands A LOT more attention than most conures if you want then to stay socialized, personable and happy. If have learned one thing about them that would be it. I honestly HAVE to spend SOOOOOOOO much time with Finley or he takes it really hard and it will trigger his mental issues so I have to be super on top of it. I would say for those out there who are getting or want a Nanday please make sure you have enough time for them nor it will not turn out well. I know Chaddar's favorite time spent was cuddling up to your neck and I know you gave her the love and attention she craved. I would however caution you to not get another Nanday just yet because this Nanday maybe a wired of hell cat who may never want to cuddle and remind you nothing of Cheddar and that could be really really tough. I know people who put in the time and effort and see little to no results with their Nanday. I personally put in double time and tripled my efforts and I think that is the reason I have been mostly successful with Finley and it was in no way easy and still isn't.