Family and friends Disaproving

[ruffledfeathers]

AW, this sub-topic here, so sad.....a semi-positive spin on it....my grandmother also did something like this when she was young. She put down her step son's dog because they were staying with her temporarily while they got on their feet. She didn't want the dog around and just went behind their backs and got rid of the dog.
The ONLY reason i know this is because as my grandmother aged, it haunted her a little. She looked back and her young self and felt sad and wondered 'who was that??' As an older person she seemed totally transformed from the way she was young. I hope for such a transformation in other people too!!! It's like something is dead in their souls to not realize something so obvious.

 

[94lt1]

Hers my .02 sometime family thinks they know best...but often Times, when its time for a person to grow...they need to butt out. They often times don't have the facts or the knowledge needed to make those snap decisions....

I'm sorry but be strong... Tell them to respect you and your choices!! That's what family is supposed to do!! Its not like you have a nuclear bomb in your butt.....if they can't have faith in you, then why should you have faith in them!!!

I come from a dysfunctional family where the eldest male son was a child and woman beater.....and until I took him down(age 12)...all was never set right.. In say this out of concern.. Don't let uninformed people make your decisions..I say that with all of my heart..

I had a hard childhood...I was set up to fail...perseverance kept me from doing so.....

 

[Pugtato]

My parents were always supportative of me when it came to animals, which looking back, I am so thankful for. I raised ducks, geese, and rabbits in our small town suburban back yard. I had weekly horseback riding lessons until I bought my own horse when was 14. I had a collection of reptiles later on in my teens. I really had an amazing family when it came to "pets."

My fiancé, on the other hand, is not an animal guy. He loves dogs, and I am convinced that his soul mate is our Pug, Winston. But he is not a big fan of my horse (or horses in general), reptiles, and he has not really bonded with Kippy. This makes things a bit tough, as I gain a great deal of enjoyment from my guys. My horse is my partner in crime and my parrot is my opinionated sassy best friend, who is sometimes mad at me for forgetting her morning piece of banana. I have been throwing around the idea of getting one more parrot, sometime in the near/not so near future, because I don't like the idea of brining a parrot into our home later in life due to the sheer lifespan of many parrots. And I would like to have one more bird in our family, if nothing else so it can help Kippy torture my Fiancé and keep me company.

Just the other day, incidentally I had the opportunity to buy a 4 year old female eclectus, with everything for her, for an amazing price. In no way was I looking to bring another bird home so soon, and normally price would be an after thought due to months of saving, but this poor darling just looked awful and I could easily afford her and a vet check, she was that cheaply priced. She was plucked to bits and had the feather luster of sand paper, but I was told that she was truly a sweet bird who just wanted some snuggles and good food. No, way in heck, said the fiancé and though I respect and understand it, I wish he could find the joy I see in Kippy. At the moment he seems to see her as an annoyance, but he is well aware that she is my lifer and he has the take us as a pair.

As it is, I don't mind it because I love and respect him and the way he wants to live. He truly values his silence, and as we all know, birds are anything but that. And if Kippy ends up being an only fid then I am sure she will love having the house to herself for those late night showers, girls nights in, and hiking trips inside of her carrier. Although...

I wonder what would happen if I bribed him with home cooked lunches for a few months, hum....