A very very sad day

[Morty]

So sorry to hear of your loss

 

[Allee]

Jon, heartfelt sympathy and deepest condolences for your loss of Patches, I'm so sorry. From the very beginning of your journey you inspired us all with Patches' story. From the moment Patches chose you and your son the story of Patches was a beautiful success story. Every day he spent with you and your family was a gift. You changed his life for the better, that's no small thing, please don't forget that. Deepest gratitude and respect to you for giving Patches the best of everything, above all, unconditional love, understanding and respect. I know how much the pain and loss hurts right now but I hope in time you will open your heart and home again to a bird who needs you.

Congratulations on your new grandchild. I wish your family peace and joy this holiday season.

 

[Anansi]

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Even though I only knew him through your words and the pics provided, I felt a special attachment to Patches. His personality managed to shine through somehow, and I'm sure I speak for many members here when I say that he will be deeply missed.

You did everything you possibly could have for him. You acted as soon as you knew something was wrong, and you made all the right calls for all the right reasons. And take it from someone who has gone through the experience twice of holding his bonded bird in his hands as he died, Patches definitely took comfort in your being there for him in his final moments. They may not understand vets and techs, nor tubes and medicine... but support and nurturing? Oh, that they understand. And make no mistake, they draw comfort from it. As Inger so perfectly put it, that beak grinding at the end truly said all that needed saying about his feelings for you. In that moment, being with you was all that he wanted. He was content as he made his transition.

Because of you.

Take solace in that, my friend.

 

[dhraiden]

You did good by Patches. My condolences to you SG.

 

[Aratingettar]

I know there are no words that can ease your pain, Saxguy. But one thing is for sure: Patches was the luckiest bird ever, having You as his Parront. You gave him unconditional and true love, and that's one most important gift he could get.
Keep the beautiful moments in your memory, and the bad things will fade away.
Fly free in parrot heaven, Patches!

 

[saxguy64]

Thank you again everyone for your support. It means more than you will ever know, especially coming from a wonderful group of people who truly understand. While we commonly try to remember the good an leave the bad behind, in all honesty, aside from losing him, I have absolutely nothing but good memories with Patches. There was no bad. Zip, zero... nada. In my eyes, he was completely perfect, and loved to show it in pictures. His amazing personality always showed through, and he always posed for the camera. He always wanted me in sight, and refused to sit on my shoulder, because he couldn't look me in the eye from there. And the kisses... All the time, whenever possible, and right up until the last when he didn't have the strength, but still gave them if I came to him.

 

[Owlet]

those last two pictures are absolutely perfect! I love his little picnic it's so precious

 

[saxguy64]

those last two pictures are absolutely perfect! I love his little picnic it's so precious

Thank you! I did a whole series of them for a summer POTM. It was so much fun to do with him.

 

[Tami2]

I’m very sorry got your loss.

 

[Laurasea]

He looks so happy and loved! That last picture captured his joy in digging into his grub! What a wonderful tribute!

 

[Scott]

those last two pictures are absolutely perfect! I love his little picnic it's so precious

those last two pictures are absolutely perfect! I love his little picnic it's so precious

Thank you! I did a whole series of them for a summer POTM. It was so much fun to do with him.

Absolutely stunning, winner of the POTM contest for good reason.

 

[saxguy64]

Good morning all, and thank you again for all the comfort and kindness.

I had a potential bizarre twist of fate yesterday. I went to visit with Andrea at the sanctuary where Patches found me. Talking with her and other bird people who understand was really helpful, and visiting the birds was nice.

I'm not ready to jump in yet, I need time to mourn, but oh, the heart strings...
She just took in a beautiful 3.5 yr old red sided Ekkie boy who is in need. He was extremely loved and well cared for, and now his life is turned upside down. His dad was a vet with severe PTSD who moved to the middle of nowhere in Maine for the quiet. The birds started screeching constantly due in part to the barn owls and other predator type birds that have been attracted to their area. This poor man was to the point of ready to kill the birds or himself, and had to surrender them immediately.

I had a long visit with the Ekkie, Tucker, which made me happy, and ache for Patches at the same time. He was wonderful with me. Like I said, I'm not ready yet, but this little boy needs someone. Oh, my heart...

 

[Inger]

It makes my heart happy that you know that someday you will be ready.


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[Anansi]

Take what time you need, SG. Once you are again ready, whichever bird winds up with you will be very fortunate.

I got Jolly a few months after Bixby died. Left to myself, I'd likely have taken far longer, but when Laura (labell, a fellow member, here) approached me about taking him into my household it just felt right. You know? And I'm so thankful that happened.

Jolly didn't fill in the hole in my heart left by Bixby's departure. No bird could've done that. Our bond was something special and unique. But he forged for himself a new space, just as special and unique - but different - that I cherish.

When you're ready, the same will happen for you. I do not doubt it. But in the meantime, yes, allow yourself to grieve.

 

[Jen5200]

Take all the time you need, but I am so glad to hear that your heart may have room for another bird in need someday. Any bird will be very lucky to have you.

 

[saxguy64]

The hole in my heart from Patches will be there forever. This I know without question. I also know that there is space in there for another. Being the potato chips of birds that Ekkies are, I had been considering a second. Something deep inside told me that Patches needed me all to himself a little longer, so I dismissed the urge. So glad I did. He got to be the center of my universe right until the end. My best friend deserved that.

It will take some time to accept him being gone, and be prepared that another one will never be him, but as said above, different can be just as great, just different. I will spend time visiting with Tucker also, and see if the connection is there or not, and take it from there. First impression is that we could be great together, but first meeting for a few hours doesn't tell the whole story. I visited Patches every weekend for months before I was completely sure. Admittedly, a lot of that time was my own denial, and complete lack of Ekkie knowledge before I had the conference that I could do him justice. I hope I did. I gave him everything I had, always.

Time will tell.

 

[ChristaNL]

Some would say this is Patches way of making sure you are not alone
but take all the time you need.


I loved and missed my first grey so much it took me almost 20 years to decide to adopt again, and of course she also left a huge gaping hole when we had to say goodbye as well (after a very short time and discovering her cancer).
Japie decided to be my third grey parrot long before I was really ready- but I am glad he did..

 

[saxguy64]

Thank you Christa. That is the hardest part of this... I have my family, my dogs and everything, but in spite of it all, I'm so alone. I know that will pass, and life goes on, but right now, I'm lost. My whole routine gone. Makes it hard to get anything done. Super Dad/Grandpa must press on...

 

[Laurasea]

I don't think you have to wait. If it feels right go for it. I lost my baby this year, and it seems before I could blink I had 4 new birds... My heart has room for them all, and I thank my Burt for showing me the love of birds.. I empathize with you, it hurts, it's so hard to loose them.

 

[HEEDLESS]

Good morning all, and thank you again for all the comfort and kindness.

I had a potential bizarre twist of fate yesterday. I went to visit with Andrea at the sanctuary where Patches found me. Talking with her and other bird people who understand was really helpful, and visiting the birds was nice.

I'm not ready to jump in yet, I need time to mourn, but oh, the heart strings...
She just took in a beautiful 3.5 yr old red sided Ekkie boy who is in need. He was extremely loved and well cared for, and now his life is turned upside down. His dad was a vet with severe PTSD who moved to the middle of nowhere in Maine for the quiet. The birds started screeching constantly due in part to the barn owls and other predator type birds that have been attracted to their area. This poor man was to the point of ready to kill the birds or himself, and had to surrender them immediately.

I had a long visit with the Ekkie, Tucker, which made me happy, and ache for Patches at the same time. He was wonderful with me. Like I said, I'm not ready yet, but this little boy needs someone. Oh, my heart...

I am glad you are fine and well... I can relate to this loneliness of yours very well...


My son got married and and abandoned me for his wife and her family. Basically, he dumped his very own mother.


I didn't against their marriage, I was lecture him to wait until he done with his engineering carrier, get a job and then the wedding.


He doesn't listen and we did argument. His very own words through the phone was..... "Mom, let's end it here."... That is that... he has not call or stopping by for almost two years...

Our relationship has ended after twenty four years.

I was lonely and cried my heart out. I have no family, he is all I have.

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I am doing better now after I have Kise.


I think Tucker, the eclectus was the perfect timing for you, and he needs you.

























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