sorry for my inactivity

[DallyTsuka]

i just want to say that i was about to apologize for the lack of participation on the forum..then i seen your post...hun i am so sorry you are going through this...i am the mother of 2 beautiful girls but in between baby one and two i lost a baby i will hopefully someday meet on the other side....It isn't easy when you go into the euphoria of buying baby items/preparations...

i just want to let you know (maybe just reinforce) that time heals most things and maybe there was a reason you didnt understand, but your body did....

i hope i am not making matters worse..i jusr want to let you know i have suffered that dreaded reality too and if you need to talk please pm me...

i also want you to know that beyond that i have an adorable and spunky 3 yr old that makes me laugh every time she opens her mouth...she was my baby after my M/C and even she spent a week in the NICU.....just be prepared for what life lunges at you and feel blessed with all of the other random gifts you are given...again i am so sorry and i hope i am helping, not making it worse....

no your words do help. what i think you are trying to say is to not take for granted the good things when they happen. and it is true. bad things do make us love the good things even more.


right now i am waiting for this miscarriage to finally be over with so that i can move on and start the healing process easier instead of waking up to the same reality each day. i've come to the resolve that i am not going to forget this little one but i cannot dwell over it because it was out of my control. i did everything right as best as i could and still didnt work out and there was some reason or another for it. next time i will be even more prepared.


i had some minor problems the week before the diagnosis and wound up going to the ER for them and people kept telling me "oh thats normal in pregnancy, its normal" and family and coworkers were kinda making me feel a little ridiculous going to the ER over it and in the end i was right that there was something wrong, and its good i went then instead of waiting longer or else this situation could have turned septic. and it could have wound up much much worse. so every little thing happens for a reason, there's always pros and cons to every situation and my next one i hope works out better and i will love the next one all the more.

it's just unexpected and hard. i wont be stepping foot into the baby room for a long while. im still not able to and likely wont be able to for awhile.