My CAG is Starting to Dislike My Girlfriend, Need Some Advice Please

[CrazyAnimalLady]

Btw. Your bird is only 22 weeks. He's just a baby.

You haven't hit the hard stage yet. Don't be surprised when he hits puberty and he gets moody to even you. No matter how experienced you are. No matter how much time you invest. How strong your bond. Hormones ARE going to kick in eventually and he will change for a while. Please be understanding of this.

Just keep trying. Some days he will be more willing then others. It all depends on how he feels that day. It seems like your progressing really well. Try to have your girlfriend spend lots of time just talking to him from a distance and giving him treats and such just because as well. It would be better if she can form a relationship with him based on trust and not just training. It's a lot more rewarding when the bird comes to you because he chooses to then it is because he has to or thinks he will get a treat for it. It will be rewarding for both of them.

 

[All_Hail_King_Rufus]

Laziness..... Really? YOU don't know me or my birds. What my boy has been through or how HARD I worked to be able to handle him at all! Or even approach him in the first place!!!! You don't know me. I think you have NO RIGHT to say such a thing. If you think you know everything. Just remember this. YOU ASKED for opinions. No need to be rude to those who offer them.

I never said anything personal about you and I certainly didn't intend to start any trouble. Sorry you took offense so easily.

 

[All_Hail_King_Rufus]

Let us all endeavor to remember that this is a forum. One of the strengths of a forum is the diversity of its membership. Specifically, diversity of thought.

Anyone who comes here seeking advice does so because they are likely to encounter people here who might have different ideas than they do, whether due to greater experience or a different approach.

The point is, one does not come to a forum seeking only like-minded individuals. On a forum, you WILL encounter people who approach things differently than you do. Who see things differently. You need not agree with said different approach, but there needs to be a level of respect that is always maintained when voicing your disagreement.

Let's all stay away from descriptive pejoratives, as they are more likely to inflame passion and anger than to inspire honest and constructive debate.

Long story short, let's keep things civil, and avoid me having to come back and close this thread. Thank you.

I thought my opinion was pretty civilized. There was no name calling or personal attacks. I didn't expect to get so much heat for it, especially because I wasn't being disrespectful.

 

[Anansi]

Had you gone as far as actual name calling, I'd have edited your post at the very least. But if you think about it, your post did imply laziness on the part of one of our members.

You may not have intended it, but it came across unnecessarily harsh. Read back over the thread. Sometimes a second look can reveal something you'd failed to notice the first time around.

 

[All_Hail_King_Rufus]

Had you gone as far as actual name calling, I'd have edited your post at the very least. But if you think about it, your post did imply laziness on the part of one of our members.

You may not have intended it, but it came across unnecessarily harsh. Read back over the thread. Sometimes a second look can reveal something you'd failed to notice the first time around.

I see where your coming from but I made that comment in case someone (like me) comes to this site in the future to read about their problem. If they see something along the lines of "that's just how it is" they might just accept the negative behavior for what it is and not work towards fixing it. I did not imply anything, I made a statement about the possible impact that statement might make on someone else. I'm not here to argue about anything, just to learn but I guess people take things personal.

 

[All_Hail_King_Rufus]

Can a mod clean this up please?

 

[JerseyWendy]

Can a mod clean this up please?

It's been cleaned up - thoroughly! A repeat of what transpired here last night will NOT have a happy ending.

 

[Anansi]

Had you gone as far as actual name calling, I'd have edited your post at the very least. But if you think about it, your post did imply laziness on the part of one of our members.

You may not have intended it, but it came across unnecessarily harsh. Read back over the thread. Sometimes a second look can reveal something you'd failed to notice the first time around.

I see where your coming from but I made that comment in case someone (like me) comes to this site in the future to read about their problem. If they see something along the lines of "that's just how it is" they might just accept the negative behavior for what it is and not work towards fixing it. I did not imply anything, I made a statement about the possible impact that statement might make on someone else. I'm not here to argue about anything, just to learn but I guess people take things personal.

For the record, the way to have approached that was to simply state your own point of view without ascribing any pejoratives to her own. If you'd never have inserted that "promoting laziness" line, I'd have had no issue with what you'd written. And anyone who happened upon this thread might've seen your approach alongside hers and made an informed decision.

Wendy, thank you for the arduous task of cleaning everything up over here.

I'd promised that if anything kicked off over here again, that I'd come back and close this thread. And I am very much a man of my word.

This thread is now closed.