Wow, you guys have been busy...searching for answers etc.etc (sorry for conking out, I am on the 'wrong side of the planet' sometimes).
Yup- not being able to call the shots when it comes to how everybody should be treating your pet is quite a challenge.
So, parrots and parents alike respond to positive experiences and bribes.
Try to get your family on board when it comes to the shunning (turning your back on the bird, ignoring it, not taking peeks to see if she is sorry- at all! for 30 secs up to 3 minutes). Once your birdy is a bit nicer she will automatically be more welcome in everybodies life.
So it really would help if it was a family project, but even if you have to start this on your own...you can do it!
Overhere lots and lots of kids get a canarie/ tiel/ budgie to teach them about responsabilities etc. (the birds are dead cheap here, they are usually given for free to familymembers, friends etc.) -- and a lot of parents end up in totall shock when they discover a parrot is not like a hamster: just stick it in a cage in the kids bedroom, make sure it gets food and water& gets cleaned and it will be fine.
So you are not the only one this kind of thing is happening to.
Actually you are quite brilliant in finding your way here.
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You mentioned "why is she flying to me and still biting"?
Well. that is easy: she really, really loves you, you are family...the bites are just to show you who is boss and maybe tell you something is scaring her/ challenging her / not to her liking/ or she want you to so something for her.
That is where you have a grip on things.
Every single bite is a great opportunity to practise the "no biting".
And yes, in the beginning it is vital you really adress each and every one... this will be a bore!
(LOL, I am still explaining this to my macaw- we have been at it for 11 months now. And in the beginning it seemed she would be a bitey b!tch forever, I went through bandaids like crazy and it was *very* depressing/demotivating .. but very slowly she started to come around. She is far from perfect -> she broke skin again yesterday=evening, but I kept her up waaaay past her bedtime and I knew she would be cranky about that-> they really react like little kids!, so that one is on me ...)
You are still in the getting to know each other really, really well phase (learning to read birdbodylanguage is like learning any foreign language: it takes time and a lot of practice)- There is a great sticky about amazon-body-language here, of course in every birdspecies there are (huge/small) differences, but it gives you great pointers what to look out for.
Once you learn the signals / speach of the bird you can usually see a bite coming and distract her/ prevent the bite/ learn what things really are an issue.
The fun thing is- just like with very scared dogs: once they have a "strong boss" they can stop panicking, because there is someone there who has their back.
A parrot that knows it has a flock is a happy, protected-feeling bird.
If you teach the bird to follow your lead ...a lot of 'scary things' are no longer so scary.
If you are not acting scared...there is no reason to be scared-> Life is that simple sometimes
Anyway- just teach your bird that 'biting is not the answer' and that you will listen if she communicates in a different way, like a civilized birdy and you guys will do great together.
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building trust- sticky
amazon-bodylanguage sticky
the biting- sticky
for starters
You can do this!