guilt

[Owlet]

this is more of a vent than anything else I just need to get it off my chest and maybe if you all have any advice..?

Basically all of June I was in and out of the hospital and it was really stressful. My parents were able to give the birds their basic needs (food, water) but nothing else. In the beginning of July I started a new job that takes me out of the house for most the day as my commute is longer than I normally would like (45min one way) so I have even less time with the birds and recently I had to start an intensive treatment program that leaves me absolutely exhausted and I end up just sleeping for the rest of the day and the day following. I feel like I'm failing the birds i havent been socializing with them as much as i would like and I've been slacking with cage cleaning and I dont know when things will get better

 

[T00tsyd]

I am not an expert on your birds in this situation but I do think you could ease up on yourself. The more you stress the longer you will feel like you do. Take a deep breath and try hard not to worry. Take one day at a time, you can only give what you have. If your parents were able to give the basics would they still help on the cleaning front?
Sometimes you just have to ask. Don't punish yourself, your birds know that you are there and they are there for you. At least they have company with each other.

Your job is to get well. Take care.

 

[chris-md]

Very very well said above!

You’re going through something right now that is beyond your control. Birds will be find when you’re ready to get back to business, so to speak. You shouldn’t feel back about doing what you have to to feel better.

Wishing you the best of health in the coming weeks!

 

[Inger]

Everyone beat me to it. Take care of yourself. Don’t beat yourself up over what you can’t get done. They know you love them and they love you.


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[Laurasea]

Owelet I hope you feel better, all of us go thru life changes and time issues.

I certainly understand the sucky part of being in hospital and getting treatments st the hospital... it’s hard on mind and body. Sometimes my birds did fine, sometimes the got loud and pissed. But we all got through it. Never hurts to tell them what’s going on, somehow ( I feel) they understand, whenever I explain stuff it seems they feel better about the situation.

Long commutes is how I ended up moving to Florida! I just couldn’t deal with all that time wasted. I hope you can find a work around for that

 

[SailBoat]

Truly wonderful advise above!!!

Spending the time you have is what they will want! Remember, they connect into our emotions, so target distressing, everyone will be more comfortable.

 

[Scott]

Do the best you can and try to enlist your parents for a bit more relief. This bump in the road shall pass and you'll make up for time lost with Lincoln and Apollo. They know your heart and offer unconditional love.

 

[noodles123]

So, I would be the same way because I feel guilty about practically everything (lol). BUT, that doesn't mean that either of us should.

Think of it this way- if you hadn't gotten the help you needed, I imagine it would have been really bad, right? I mean, you don't have to share details, but generally if you go inpatient it is because the alternative is too dangerous.
If you didn't get treatment, you could have ended up in a situation far worse for your birds, so if this temporary "rough" patch is what it takes for you to heal and make the rest of their lives better in the long-run, then that is far better than the alternative!

New jobs are always super stressful (on top of everything else) so I am sure you are drained- I did a 45 minute commute for about 6 months to a new job and it was rough as heck...You have a lot on your plate, but it honestly sounds like you are doing a pretty dang good job, given all that you have been through recently!

Try not to beat yourself up...(easier said than done, from the queen of unnecessary guilt herself lol) BUT from an outsider's perspective, you have nothing to feel guilty about, even though I totally empathize.

Hope it gets easier for you!