I think what I didn't say in the other "Conure" thread that I should have said, and that SunnyClover hit-on, is that for whatever reason, your idea of how a bird "bonds" to you is set in your mind as whatever bird you bring home, baby or adult, that doesn't really matter in this situation, will bond solely and only to you, if you are the only person in the house that has any direct contact with it, that if no one else in the house touches, talks to, or goes near the bird, and if the bird is locked inside a cage all day long, by itself, alone, and no one else goes near him but you, that this will result in a bird who wants nothing but to be quite literally "stuck to you" when you get home at night for the 3 hours you're going to spend with him....And that the bird's "bond", as you describe it or think of it, is going to keep it literally "stuck" to your shoulder all the time and in all situations, thus making you feel that it's alright to not change anything in your household regarding your other pets, the dogs and the cats, because the bird will not ever leave your shoulder, as mentioned it will literally be like a "statue on your shoulder"...And this is your rationale for not having to keep the dogs or cats away from the bird....I hope I'm describing this accurately, as this is what I'm getting from what you are trying to or wanting to achieve, as you've somewhere gotten this idea that a bird's "bond" to "their person" is actually just as I've described, and my fear, or the biggest fear for whatever bird you bring home, is that this idea that you have of what a bird's "bond" is to their person is going to give you a false-sense of security and safety in your home with other potentially dangerous animals.
I don't think you're a bad person at all, I never did. You said that I "flamed you", however I didn't flame you, I just didn't pull any punches with you and attempted to inform you that this sort of "bond-forming training-plan" that you've come-up with is based on this idea that you have of what a bird's bond to a person is, and because that idea of bird's bond to a human is not accurate, you're entire plan to accomplish that goal is not going to work, or at the very least has a great chance of failing...
The fact of the matter is this:
-There is no way to force any bird to bond with one particular person
-The fact that your fiance is going to be home all day, even if she has no contact with the bird, makes what you are wanting to accomplish very difficult, as the bird will absolutely know that people are home in the house, and will know who your fiance is, and this is most-likely going to result in a very loud, screaming bird in a cage, all day long, or at the very least this is a good possibility that you must consider
-You can spend every moment that bird is out of it's cage with it, and it might absolutely hate you, and simply bond with your fiance from afar because she is always around
-Even if the bird "bonds" with you, this has nothing at all to do with the bird being "obedient", which is kind of the way I think you're thinking; A bonded bird is just like a bonded child, they act-out, are loud, and certainly will not be "stuck to your shoulder" at all times while you're walking around, this is not what a "bond" with a bird means at all
-As someone with 2 dogs and 4 parrots (and 8 Budgies) I can tell you that if you don't modify the situation with both your current dogs and cats when the bird is out of it's cage, and while in it's cage if the dogs and cats are allowed to be near the cage, that this is a very dangerous situation for a bird to be in
-Cats are innate, natural hunters, regardless of how nice they are or how they act around other animals, and allowing your bird out of it's cage and in the same room with one or more cats and then dogs as well is eventually going to end badly, as no bird is going to stay on your shoulder because it is "bonded" with you as it's person, that's not what "bonded" to you means
Think of how a young child is "bonded" to his mommy and daddy. Seriously. That's exactly what the bond between a parrot and it's person is like. Obviously just because a child is bonded to it's parent or parents, this does not mean that the child is "stuck" to their parents 24/7, nor does it mean that no one else interacts with the child, nor does it mean that the child doesn't act-out, be loud, get in-trouble, etc. Less-so with a bird. So please don't assume that you will not have to make safety procedures and changes about when the dogs and cats will be allowed out with the bird, and vice versa. Cats and birds do not usually mix at all. I have 2 dogs, one that is fine with my birds, one that is not at all, no matter what I do, and as such he gets put into another room when I have a bird in the room free. It's just not worth the risk. Modifications have to be made, and though different for every home and family, they will have to be made, as the first time your bird flies off of your shoulder may be it's last...
***I guess I'd rather ask you a very serious and pertinent question, a question that you absolutely need to think about, if you haven't already considered...
"What's your contingency plan if whatever bird you bring home does not bond with you like you want it to, but rather with your fiance? What if the bird doesn't like you at all? What if the bird spends all day long inside it's cage screaming and crying?"
I guess the question is, if any of these things happen, which they very likely may, are you open to making the bird a family bird at that point, especially if the bird decides that your fiance is it's person and not you, are you open to that?
