Stressed from a needy parrot

[Kriick21]

Hi everyone,
I have had my quaker parrot since he was 11 weeks old & I was 20yrs old.
He is now 9 years old & im 29 and pregnant with my first child:
My Quaker (spud) is becoming increasingly needy as he has always been bonded to me but I have tried to distance myself a little bit and he has escalated and all he does is sqwuaks. I don’t know what to do he is giving me major stress and our baby is due in 2 months.
I am beginning to resent my parrot because I cannot live peacefully & am always feeling stressed at home.
I have no idea what to do, can anyone help me?
TIA

 

[Laurasea]

Hi,
Congratulations on upcoming baby. 333 the angels are with you.

Spud very likely has picked up on your condition . And would want to be extra protective and close.
Parrots don't break bonds, and distancing your self from him is just stress. As a flock creatures, they stay together, its unnatural for them to be isolated . Its hardwired to flock

Quakers do require a lot if contact time, they are social and live in large flocks and extended family s help raise chick's.

Quakers do turn to screaming, as I'm always warning people considering them. They scream when stuck in cage, when stressed, when unhappy. And they don't stop for the entire day, they are relentless ! O I have experienced it, and I feel for you.

To me the easy fix , is to not push him away , to still honor your bond with him. We have a member who has an Amazon, and then become pregnant and has her baby, and her relationship with her parrot.

I do have a lot of empathy for you. I want you to feel peaceful. Its just that all the screaming ones I've helped, it nearly always the environment, more time out of the cage, more contact time, setting them up their own furniture around the home for indirect hang out, increasing foraging abd enrichment, patterns, routines, self directed Behavior, healthy diet, and when weather permits, very secure cage taken outside in light shade and yiu staying outside with them. Can be extremely beneficial to mood to spend time outdoors, as well as the sunshine vitamin. Mine are always extra quiet after spending time outside.

The cheap hang out spots I've created for my 3 Quakers and one GCC

Enrichment ideas, share yours

I'm often posting how I use ceiling hooks abd heavy weight fishing line to create what I call an aerial gym. I attach foraging stuff, stuff to chew, and treats to find to keep my flock busy. So now I will share examples to inspire you. Hopefully you all will share yours to inspire me too! this...

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Stress Reduction for Companion Parrots – Pet Birds by Lafeber Co.

To put it bluntly, keeping companion parrots is similar to trying to pound a square peg into a round hole. The fact that they do as well as they do is testimony more to their adaptability than it is to our husbandry efforts.

lafeber.com

Teaching foraging, and doing together for fun. Mine are out all day as I'm home all day. I set them up to be able to entertain themselves, and they spend a good amount of the day doing that, as well as flying to me for an occasional snuggle, and about a solid hour a day of head scratches

 

[SailBoat]

Not sure where to start, but to say: Stop Stressing Yourself Out!!
Babies and Parrots have been in the same rooms for near as long as there has been Humans and Parrots in the same area.

Not sure what is really happening in your home, but the Stress is Not from your Long Time Family Member, who is only trying to be with and around you! Remember that Parrots, with great easy, connect to our Mental Self and when their Human is out of sorts, they try to help by being around and with you.

Take several Deep Breaths of Fresh Air and hold them and then slowly release them. Relax, and enjoy these special moments of having another care about you and just being with you.

If you are not close to family, video chat works wonders!

 

[Kriick21]

Not sure where to start, but to say: Stop Stressing Yourself Out!!
Babies and Parrots have been in the same rooms for near as long as there has been Humans and Parrots in the same area.

Not sure what is really happening in your home, but the Stress is Not from your Long Time Family Member, who is only trying to be with and around you! Remember that Parrots, with great easy, connect to our Mental Self and when their Human is out of sorts, they try to help by being around and with you.

Take several Deep Breaths of Fresh Air and hold them and then slowly release them. Relax, and enjoy these special moments of having another care about you and just being with you.

If you are not close to family, video chat works wonders!

Hi,
Congratulations on upcoming baby. 333 the angels are with you.

Spud very likely has picked up on your condition . And would want to be extra protective and close.
Parrots don't break bonds, and distancing your self from him is just stress. As a flock creatures, they stay together, its unnatural for them to be isolated . Its hardwired to flock

Quakers do require a lot if contact time, they are social and live in large flocks and extended family s help raise chick's.

Quakers do turn to screaming, as I'm always warning people considering them. They scream when stuck in cage, when stressed, when unhappy. And they don't stop for the entire day, they are relentless ! O I have experienced it, and I feel for you.

To me the easy fix , is to not push him away , to still honor your bond with him. We have a member who has an Amazon, and then become pregnant and has her baby, and her relationship with her parrot.

I do have a lot of empathy for you. I want you to feel peaceful. Its just that all the screaming ones I've helped, it nearly always the environment, more time out of the cage, more contact time, setting them up their own furniture around the home for indirect hang out, increasing foraging abd enrichment, patterns, routines, self directed Behavior, healthy diet, and when weather permits, very secure cage taken outside in light shade and yiu staying outside with them. Can be extremely beneficial to mood to spend time outdoors, as well as the sunshine vitamin. Mine are always extra quiet after spending time outside.

The cheap hang out spots I've created for my 3 Quakers and one GCC

Enrichment ideas, share yours

I'm often posting how I use ceiling hooks abd heavy weight fishing line to create what I call an aerial gym. I attach foraging stuff, stuff to chew, and treats to find to keep my flock busy. So now I will share examples to inspire you. Hopefully you all will share yours to inspire me too! this...

www.parrotforums.com

Stress Reduction for Companion Parrots – Pet Birds by Lafeber Co.

To put it bluntly, keeping companion parrots is similar to trying to pound a square peg into a round hole. The fact that they do as well as they do is testimony more to their adaptability than it is to our husbandry efforts.

lafeber.com

Teaching foraging, and doing together for fun. Mine are out all day as I'm home all day. I set them up to be able to entertain themselves, and they spend a good amount of the day doing that, as well as flying to me for an occasional snuggle, and about a solid hour a day of head scratches

Hi,
Congratulations on upcoming baby. 333 the angels are with you.

Spud very likely has picked up on your condition . And would want to be extra protective and close.
Parrots don't break bonds, and distancing your self from him is just stress. As a flock creatures, they stay together, its unnatural for them to be isolated . Its hardwired to flock

Quakers do require a lot if contact time, they are social and live in large flocks and extended family s help raise chick's.

Quakers do turn to screaming, as I'm always warning people considering them. They scream when stuck in cage, when stressed, when unhappy. And they don't stop for the entire day, they are relentless ! O I have experienced it, and I feel for you.

To me the easy fix , is to not push him away , to still honor your bond with him. We have a member who has an Amazon, and then become pregnant and has her baby, and her relationship with her parrot.

I do have a lot of empathy for you. I want you to feel peaceful. Its just that all the screaming ones I've helped, it nearly always the environment, more time out of the cage, more contact time, setting them up their own furniture around the home for indirect hang out, increasing foraging abd enrichment, patterns, routines, self directed Behavior, healthy diet, and when weather permits, very secure cage taken outside in light shade and yiu staying outside with them. Can be extremely beneficial to mood to spend time outdoors, as well as the sunshine vitamin. Mine are always extra quiet after spending time outside.

The cheap hang out spots I've created for my 3 Quakers and one GCC

Enrichment ideas, share yours

I'm often posting how I use ceiling hooks abd heavy weight fishing line to create what I call an aerial gym. I attach foraging stuff, stuff to chew, and treats to find to keep my flock busy. So now I will share examples to inspire you. Hopefully you all will share yours to inspire me too! this...

www.parrotforums.com

Stress Reduction for Companion Parrots – Pet Birds by Lafeber Co.

To put it bluntly, keeping companion parrots is similar to trying to pound a square peg into a round hole. The fact that they do as well as they do is testimony more to their adaptability than it is to our husbandry efforts.

lafeber.com

Teaching foraging, and doing together for fun. Mine are out all day as I'm home all day. I set them up to be able to entertain themselves, and they spend a good amount of the day doing that, as well as flying to me for an occasional snuggle, and about a solid hour a day of head scratches

Hi & thanks for much for your thorough reply and understanding.
I have always considered myself patient with Spud & we have had a really good relationship over the years. Lately I have been a bit detached because so many things are changing for me emotionally/mentally/physically during pregnancy, not as patient right now with all the hormones and just haven’t wanted to have him on me all the time (maybe a little irritated) and the screams were pushing me away. Spud gets outside time in his cage on our protected veranda any chance we have good weather, I will sometimes have lunch with him or just a cuppa which I know he appreciates but it does feel like he wants more from me constantly. I think I need to work on his foraging etc and activities for him to do, he is just so focused on me. I will need to get onto this & should put aside an hour like I used to, life just gets so busy as you get older. Working full time, house work, socialising, family, holidays… I will be on maternity leave in another month & half so hopefully Spud is not too hard on me being home all the time
Thanks again for your help