No one here thinks you"re stupud and I'm sorry you got that impression. I appreciate your honest responses. Where I live, most 20 year olds are either students or plan to move into apartments as soon as they can. Their parrots often get left behind. We as parrot forum members and parrot lovers do try to talk people out if getting parrots and I see that isn't lost on you. Reputable parrot rescues do the same and often require home visits before they place a bird with a new owner. Apartment dwellers are often disqualified. The remaining concern is whether your family can accept having a noisy parrot in the house that dislikes them. You need to talk to your family members about this and prepare them for this possible reality.