My Green Cheek Conure Died

[MydearConure]

I want to share this experience with you because this is very important. My Green Cheek Conure named Greenie died a week ago. It was a freak accident. I was in the kitchen standing on a foot stool trying to reach a tray in a top shelf, and my conure has flown from the counter top to the floor and was behind me trying to reach me. I did not know she was there, so I accidentally stepped backward on her. She died immediately. She was adopted when she was 3 years old, and lived with our family for 14 years. My husband, daughter and I are devastated, depressed and heart-broken. There are so many memories of her everywhere in the house. We had a memorial for her on July 31st and buried her in the backyard. She was 17 yrs old, and I cannot stop thinking of what happened and feeling guilty for her death. She had the freedom to be outside of the cage, and she always wanted to be on our shoulders and be involved in everything. We were very careful keeping her off the floor, except that day. This accident could have been avoided if I have put her in another room while I was cooking. She had 14 happy years with us. She became part of the family. She was a daughter, sister and a friend and had her routine with us. Very loving, affectionate, smart, happy little bird. We have been crying and missing her nonstop. I want to make all the Green Cheek conure owners aware that accidents can happen and I think it can be prevented by keeping the conure safe in a high place, room, on in a cage when working, sleeping, cooking, bathing, taking her outside for a ride or in any potential dangerous activity. Always thinking "safety" for our beloved pet.

Has this happened to anyone else? How do you stop blaming yourself??

 

[Scott]

My deepest condolences for your loss of Greenie. So very sorry this was your inaugural post to our family.

Your experience is sadly quite familiar to our members. Accidents happen despite our best of intentions. We make decisions meant to enhance the lives of our precious fids even as it unwittingly places them in danger. One could choose to lock a bird in presumed safety of a cage and deprive all involved of incredible joy.

Greenie knew she was cherished, please allow yourselves to grieve openly and celebrate her beautiful memories. There is no timeline and you will never forget.

A wonderful friend shared this with me during my time of need:

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not a mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition and of unspeakable love.”

― Washington Irving"

 

[Jen5200]

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience, anything that makes us pause and think about their safety will benefit someone and prevent an accident. It sounds like she had a wonderful 14 years and is much loved by your family.

 

[Allee]

Deepest condolences, I’m so sorry you had to say goodby to your little family member under tragic circumstances. Thank you for sharing your story, I know how difficult and painful it must be. Yes, we should all do our very best to keep our pets as safe as possible but as you mentioned, as small as Greenie was she was a family member and she wanted to be with you no matter what. For fourteen wonderful years, an accident didn’t happen. Try to remember the best moments of those years. A lot of us are overly cautious, it begs the question, can we ever keep those we’re responsible for safe enough. But the question that follows that one can be important too, who are we trying to keep safe, them or us? It sounds like Greenie had a loving family and a wonderful home, that’s pretty huge. I hope all the happy memories you shared will comfort you in the days to come.

 

[Pampa]

I am so sorry. I understand your devastation. My Blue Crown Conure got loose and everything I did was wrong. Because of my mistakes she came to a frightening end. The last time I saw her she was being chased into the forest by crows.
I am devastated because I loved and miss her. I feel guilty because I was responsible for her and my mistakes caused undue stress and a terrible experience for her. I am getting over it by forgiving myself. By knowing that she wouldn’t be blaming me. In fact if I was the bird I would berate myself for the mistakes the bird made. Lastly I just have to stop myself from dwelling on it and move on. I hope you will grief your loss and move on. It was a terrible accident I am so sorry.

 

[LaManuka]

I’m so sorry for your loss of Greenie. Many members here have also lost a precious baby through accident or misadventure at one time or another and know only too well how devastating it is to feel responsible for their loss, myself included. Eventually it will get a little easier but in the meantime we are here for you. Personally I’ve lost count of the number of close shaves I’ve had with mine over the years and accidents like this happen in the blink of an eye. Especially with my Lilly Pilly since she moves so fast!

You’ve come to the right place to share Greenie’s life and honour her memory, you are definitely among friends here.

 

[RemiBird]

So very sorry for your loss
Greenie had an amazing life with you, it sounds like. I cannot imagine your pain. Again, very sorry.

 

[Lucabird]

How tragic, I’m so sorry for your loss.

 

[Flboy]

This is horror! I am so very sorry!

 

[Terry57]

I am so very sorry for your devastating loss. For you to be sharing your story in the midst of your pain to help others is a such a meaningful & wonderful tribute to Greenie.

I hope that in time, the memory of the day you lost her will fade and memories of all the wonderful years you spent together will bring you peace. My heart goes out to you and your family.

 

[CallumConure]

I'm so so sorry for losing your GCC. Remember to be gentle on yourself. You didn't intentionally do it. Greenie probably knew that. She was adored for fourteen years.

Thank you for sharing your experience. My deepest condolences to you.

 

[MydearConure]

Thank you so much Terry57 for your kind words and wishes in this time of sorrow this family is facing. The wound is still open, but it will heal with time.

 

[MydearConure]

Thank you CallumConure for your reply. Yes, I keep telling myself the same, but I still feel bad and I try to remember the wonderful years we spend together.

 

[MydearConure]

Thank you Scott for your words of condolence and meaningful quote. Yes, I plan to celebrate her memory by writing her anecdotes, sharing pics and videos with relatives. She was a very sociable and fun bird, and was happy to be part of the family.

 

[MydearConure]

Thank you for your kind words of support!

 

[MydearConure]

Thank you so much for your support and condolence.

 

[MydearConure]

Thank you for your words of advice and support! It means a lot to me.

 

[wrench13]

My condolences to you and family. Its so so important to know where our birds are when out of cage. This could happen to anyone, even non-flighted parrots who flutter to the floor unexpectadly. rEMEMBER THE 13 YEARS OF GOOD TIMES!

 

[MydearConure]

Thank your for words of condolences. God blessings!

 

[Tami2]

Absolutely devastating. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. I can't even imagine your pain. :smile016: