My Amazon hates me now!!!!

[ljn67]

Hi everyone

I am new to this site and I have been looking for advice on my Blue front Amazon. I had it about 5 months now, and when we first got him he came to both me and my husband. After about 3 weeks he turned on my hubsand and starting to hiss at him, my hubsand did nothing wrong or change anything about the way he associated with him. So after that he just would come to me, I could do anything I wanted with him. Kiss him, hold in upside down, pat/scratch him. Play with his toys, which my hubsand couldn't do he would go after him if he touched his toys. As about 1 week ago he has now turned on me and will not step up on me, or anything. I go near his cage and he try to come after me just like he does with my hubsand. He also try to attack when touching his toys, which he never did. Not sure why he turned on us... Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I miss loving him...

 

[Sammy01]

A great article is:

Think Your Parrot Hates You? By Sally Blanchard

You should be able to find it if your google it.

Here's a bit of it:

When people call me for a parrot behavior consultation, there are two things that I hear quite frequently. The first is, “My bird suddenly turned mean,” and another version of this is, “My bird hates me.” The choice of words depends on how people interpret the fact that their bird has either been aggressive with them or suddenly wants nothing to do with them. Both statements are rarely, if ever, what is really going on. Of course, people tend to take the changes in their parrots’ behavior personally and they also interpret these changes as if parrot logic is the same as ours. While it is true that there are occasionally situations when a parrot genuinely wants nothing to do with an individual, it is very rare for parrots to suddenly “hate” someone that they have previously trusted.

Our misinterpretation of a parrot’s behavior is one of the major causes of problems with the human/parrot relationship. I hear lots of rules and absolutes about parrot behavior but I believe there is one golden rule in understanding our avian companions; parrots are more comfortable with people who are comfortable with them. Many times a parrot changes its behavior toward its caregiver because it is no longer comfortable with that person. Something that has happened is confusing the parrot and this changes the parrot’s reaction to its caregiver. The most problematic aspect of this is when the parrot’s reaction changes its behavior towards the person; then the person’s behavior changes towards the parrot. Parrots are very intelligent but they are most likely not capable of thinking, “This person whom I used to enjoy, is not acting normal towards me, and therefore, she no longer likes me so I can’t trust her and I have to be very careful around her.” However this is basically what is going on and the more reactive the person is towards the parrot’s behavioral change, the more the cycle continues. The person changes behavior towards the parrot; the parrot changes behavior towards the person and on and on until the relationship is almost lost. Notice I say almost because I have worked with many people who have been able to rebuild a trusting relationship with their parrots.

 

[Parro]

You will regain trust with her, also if she/he (I don't know yet) tried to bite you just ignore it. You will feel pain. But don't back off and act like ''Owww!'' this will teach the bird that biting will get you away from it and would keep on doing it. Don't worry. Im sure she very deeply doesn't hate you. She loves you even if she is not showing it. I'm sure you will regain your partnership in no time parrots turning aggressive to their owners is something rare. Sammy01 has almost everything explained. Perhaps your bird thought something that happened to it was from you? I don't know. The reason to find the complete swap in behavior takes a very long time as what I think. Sometimes people just ignore it and eventually lose all trust from their birds. I know you will do anything to regain her trust. But don't force it to do something. This does a huge change, really big changes which are dangerous in which the bird will act like ''wild'' now. Try and do what you used to do before, something both of you always like to do. Or just read a book, it could become jealous and want to regain partnership with you. Show her that you are PERFECT for a partnership.

 

[SandyBee]

Sammy posted a good article there, do some reading on parrot behaviour. I disagree with taking a bite and not reacting. First off try to no get bit, learn body language and training techniques. You need to start training and building trust again, don't know why it changedm How old is your amazon and how did he come to be with you might help give more specific advise.