He's gotta go.. :-((

[Dopey]

I hope everything works out and you are able to keep your Goffins, but I just wanted to add my two pennies' worth here. There is a stigma in our society - I see it bad in the dog rescues I help with, I see it in many parrot owners and rescuers, etc. - that people who relinquish animals didn't try hard enough or are bad people. With parrots especially, we are bringing challenging, emotionally taxing and potentially physically dangerous wild animals into our homes hoping they can adapt to a captive situation. Most of us who do research and overprepare find we get a new companion we can at least live with if not adore. But it doesn't always work out. Some people and parrots just aren't good matches, and while I think people should always put in the effort to change the relationship, sometimes the dynamic just doesn't and can't work out.

In dog rescue, I know people who struggled with serious property damage from dogs with severe separation anxiety and even one couple whose new dog ended up hanging themselves from a car window...all because they were afraid of the stigma of admitting the dog's problems were too much for them. I know people whose new dog ended up killing their original dog. They saw the aggression, but were scared to admit it wasn't working out and be blamed for it. Sure, there are simple fixes and in many cases the people just didn't have the experiences and resources for those animals, but they were afraid to admit failure. Here in my town, relinquishing an animal means you will never be allowed to adopt again from most of our shelters.

Anyway, it's a long tangent but if the animal truly isn't working or has become dangerous to itself or the household, there shouldn't be a stigma attached to relinquishing or rehoming that animal. Cockatoos take an extremely dedicated owner and even then, some toos just won't work in some situations. I hope you try whatever you can to keep your bird at home, but ultimately if it doesn't work out, please don't feel that rehoming is a betrayal or makes you a failure. In any case, good luck.

Well said. Thank you.

 

[torrap]

Maybe you can find a local parrot sanctuary that will be willing to take poor thing at least for a short while. It might offset his bad attitude so you can deal with the situation in peace. Just a suggestion, something I would probably do.
I wish they don't breed as many toos as they do. There are so many of them in the sanctuary here in Colorado. They always give you ear plugs before you enter the room with toos. So sad.... .

 

[Siobhan]

I agree that 'toos are not for everybody, and that some 'toos and some people are not good matches, even if a different 'too would be fine with that person/family. You have to decide what is best for your situation. BUT ... if you do want to try to make it work, if this is just a matter of adjusting to him and him to you, if it's just a bump in the road and we can help you get past it, let's give it a go. If not, and you have to give him up to someone who's a better match, I for one will understand. I certainly felt that way about Rocky. I thought there was no way we'd ever learn to live with him and vice versa. In our case, it worked out. In yours, it might not.

 

[drveunutz]

I had mine for 13 years before he became extremely agressive and noisy i tried for over a year to calm him then we got new neighbors and they started complaining about the constant noise

 

[AmyMyBlueFront]

Thanks for all your replies and suggestions folks.

It is STILL continuing. Poor Arleen cant even watch TV,the moment she sits down he starts,and it DOESN'T end She is even afraid now to put her hand in his house to change the water coz he'll attack.
I had some problems with my tv/internet today,and while I was on the phone with the tech Jones started in,and the more I talked to the tech,the LOUDER he got,then he started talking,but unfortunately his previous parront talk him not-so-pleasant words!:11: And the tech could hear him plain as day.Luckily he had a sense of humor:54:

I still don't know what to do. He can be sweet but this is unbearable for me.

Jim

 

[plumsmum2005]

Hi just a thought is there anyone that would take him short term for you so you can clear your head to make a plan of action re going forward etc? I just wish it was possible to help you in this way. Good luck with whatever you decide

 

[miloslave]

Please try to analyze....what is he trying to achievement with his screaming? Does it stop if you give him a treat, new toy, or attention? Have you by accident reinforced his screaming by shouting (giving attention) at him when he does this? Evalute exactly what is happening around this behaviour, see how changing the surrounding stimulus affects his behaviour. Let us know how it goes please.