This thread is very interesting to read. My bird has always been an only bird - the people I adopted him from had cats (a ton of them) but Noco was by himself stuck in a cage his whole 31 years of life. He had totally bonded with me now, and also likes my three dogs, but he is seriously a bossypants and I don't think he would be happy if another bird showed up. Maybe someday we will meet another bird owner in my area (mid-coast Maine) and see what he says!
One thing i had not heard of - controversy around covering a birds cage at night? What are the reasons NOT to do so? (Noco loves his blankie-cover and asks for it when he is tired. When I cover him he whispers "I love you" "Night night"... and he also tells me in the morning when he is ready to be uncovered. He just says "Ok, Hello..." or "Apple time" to let me know he is awake.)
SO my question - what would be a reason not to cover for sleeping?
Otherwise, the way I decide what to do for my guy is I ask myself "if money were no object, what would i choose for my boy?" And then I work my butt off to make the money I need to do those things even though they are expensive AF. Because I know I want the best for him, just like I did when I was raising kids, just like I do for my clients and patients (hospice) - my bird is worth the best I can give him. That said, if you love your bird/s and are doing the best you can for them, I have total respect for that.
Probably the most controversial thing I do with my bird is let him get snuggly. He loves to cuddle (no, I don't touch the super-intimate bird spots, nor do I accept if he decides he wants to vomit in my mouth. . . ) but I let him cuddle under my sweatshirt and snuggle his head against my neck. (In the photo attached, he is doing one of his "head stand snuggles" - no idea why this is his thing, but there you have it. My sweet silly Noco.
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