Considering an adoption

[Phlox]

I'm thinking of adopting this little guy...spoke to his owner and sounds like its a case of "the bird goes or I do" with the boyfriend. I think he's young enough I can undo any behavioral weirdness he might have, though he sounds like a normal conure...a little nippy, a little chirpy and a lot cuddly.

And yes, I'm still considering a baby too, but I have the room and the time and the money, so ? Also I'm at that age (almost 40) that it feels like its now or never to do it.

What do you you guys think?

 

[MrsKay]

I think it sounds like this is one lucky bird!
Do you know how old the bird is?
A name? How about 'JACKPOT'

 

[Phlox]

I'm going to re-name him if I get him...he's about 3 weeks older than Phlox (January 2014) and right now named Oscar. I'm thinking Neelix....for the geek points.

 

[Sterling1113]

He is BEAUTIFUL. /swooning./

I'm sure you'll make the right choice. If you DO bring him home.. you know the drill.. lots and lots of pictures.

 

[SilverSage]

I hate that kind of ultimatum. My husband once asked me (while we were still dating and getting to know one another) what I would do if he said that. I said I would leave him. He said "you would choose birds over a person?" I said "no I would choose not to be with someone who demonstrated so little regard for my passions and happiness."

As to getting him and a baby, I agree with your reasons! Just be careful during hormone season, I am sure uYou don't want hybrid babies.

 

[Phlox]

I don't want any birdy babies. I take eggs away if they happen. And as far as I know, Phlox is a boy.

As far as pets and relationships go? I have made adjustments, but only when there was good reason. I did re-home my nanday because he was hurting himself being near the husband. I also re-homed breeder budgies because we were just totally out of room at the time and 20 budgies made the hubby's head hurt. He is totally awesome with all my weirdness, because we made rules we both agree with, so we know the deal and there's no headaches. And he is the reason I have 2 dogs and 2 of the 4 cats.

But in this case, I think its better she's doing it now, while the birdy baby is still young and doesn't have a dozen difficult to deal with personality problems, you know?

 

[SilverSage]

I had to rehome my husky for relationship reasons, so I know it is sometimes necessary. I had rescued my husky Lucy, she had been badly abused and neglected by a man in teh airforce. She was afraid of EVERYTHING. People, especially men, doorways, headlights, chairs... you name it. Her greatest fear was my husband, at that time my boyfriend. He told me I could keep her, but I couldnt put her through the terror, especially because she starved herself when nervous.

 

[Phlox]

That's really the thing people don't get, isn't it? I will always choose my human family over my pets. It's just life. BUT I wouldn't choose to be with someone who said I HAD to choose....that's the key thing.

The hubby never insisted the budgies went. But they made him crazy and I knew it. It was better for all involved for them to go.

I never judge people re-homing, unless there is obvious abuse or an exorbitant fee where you just KNOW they are a flipper. If you have enough pets for long enough, you are bound to find some that don't fit and will fit better for someone else. As long as you find a good place, that's caring as far as I'm concerned.

This birdy was asked for by someone for a 12 yr old and she turned them down, so I know she's got the bird's best interests at heart.

 

[Kiwibird]

What a beauty! I don't know how you could pass him up Have you called them back on him yet

Now, some birds are plain weirdos and their weirdness is natural (*cough*Kiwi*cough*), but behavioral problems like biting and screaming can be reversed in birds of any age if approached properly And just because birds are the same species, even if they are closely bonded, doesn't mean they will breed. And of course, there are steps to take to prevent that too if they do so happen to like each other in that way

 

[Kiwibird]

That's really the thing people don't get, isn't it? I will always choose my human family over my pets. It's just life. BUT I wouldn't choose to be with someone who said I HAD to choose....that's the key thing.

EXACTLY! My husband is NOT an animal person and wouldn't have any pets if it weren't for me. I respect that he's not big on pets by not having a house full of animals and dragging home every cute critter I see (as tempting as it may be). On the other hand, he didn't say anything about me keeping my animals I had long before I met him (my beardie and gecko). He didn't complain when I "rescued" the newt from being flushed, and when my beardie died, he saw how sad I was loosing the only pet that was really interactive and even though it wasn't *his* thing, he didn't say anything about me adopting a parrot because he knew how much I loved them It's a give and take thing. I also never ask him to clean them, feed them or any other care things I do(well, maybe help me groom Kiwi every so often, or carry the newts tank outside because it's heavy, but he doesn't mind that kind of thing. Overall though, the animal care is MY responsibility). IF he would have ever given me an ultimate of "your pets or me" it would have been him, because that is a big red flag you do not have a compatible relationship with a happy future... I find it sad this conure is being rehomed for that reason, but hopefully he goes to a good home (wink wink)

 

[Phlox]

I'm pretty sure you (I) have talked me into it. As long as the meeting goes well on Saturday of course... I think Phlox is going to be thrilled. She really wants to play with the other birds and they all say "no". Even Iris is afraid of her since she's so rambunctious.

 

[anita1216]

Very pretty bird!!! GO for it!!!! You have the time and resources so why not? I feel very fortunate to have a husband that indulges me the way he does LOL He will get wigged out but always settles back into our routine once he is over the "what will we do with that?" He has fallen in love with birds, so getting him to agree on a CB Conure was easy.

Best of luck to you and your flock!

 

[Phlox]

I went for it!

The new MBC came home this weekend. I'll get some pics and his story posted soon. It's a weird situation, but one that actually allows me to comfortably skip the quarantine so we've been doing intros already. He's a doll!

 

[veimar]

Sure, why not to adopt? What kind of conure is he?
BTW, if it was my boyfriend I'd choose the bird - a person that puts it this way must be a jerk anyway. How can a little bird harm a relationship???

 

[Selestine]

I can't wait to see pictures!

 

[samhatch]

That's so exciting!
When I see a bird lover giving up a bird to another bird lover it makes me happy to know that sometimes a rehome situation isn't always as bad as I used to think it was.

Can't wait to see pictures.