Can I have your opinions?

[DannyA93]

So my mother has offered to buy me a new baby. I know it's only been about 5-6 months since I lost my flock but she is really insisting that this new baby will help me with what happened. I'm not sure if I'm ready for a new baby yet, idk I kinda feel like I'm replacing my kyro in a way/: but she's got a convincing argument. What do you guys think? Do you think this baby will help me feel better? I could use a new friend/: O and he's a baby pineapple green cheek. Were gonna visit him on Sunday.

 

[Kiwibird]

I think you should wait to meet the bird and see if theres a connection before considering bringing it home. There is no need to rush into it if you do not feel you are ready. Kyro and the rest of your flock were all individuals, as will be a new bird if and when you bring him or her home. This bird will NEVER replace any of the babies you lost, but very well may be a new little love to focus on.

 

[DannyA93]

Of course. I'm going to meet him on Sunday to get a feel of him.

 

[RavensGryf]

Everyone feels different about this issue. Some people need time to get over the loss almost completely first, others find getting another right away is healing. It just depends on YOU.

It's just important to keep in mind that no bird is ever going to "replace" the lost one. Going into it with that mindset is a set up for disappointment. Especially if the one you lost was an extra special or extra good bird in some way, no one else might measure up. But, they can be a lovable individual in their OWN unique way. Also, it really takes several months after having a bird to be able to say you have an idea of it's personality, and years to really know them inside out like a good friend.

I'd say if your mind isn't set about what to do, meet the bird then decide how you feel. See if it's a definite 'yes' feeling or not. If not, don't feel pressured or obligated to get that particular one.

What kind of bird? Another Sun? Good luck, can't wait to hear what you decide.

 

[Oscar23]

Definitely wait to decide until you meet him. I lost my tiel a little over 2 months ago and we just brought Oscar, our sun conure home tonight. I desperately missed my tiel and the house was too quiet so we decided to take a look. The minute they gave Oscar to me I knew it was meant to be. I absolutely adore Oscar and I'm so glad he is part of our family now. However, I am experiencing additional sadness over missing my Zekers tonight. My heart aches a little more than it has. Oscar definitely didn't replace Zekers but he is helping me heal and will be a treasured part of our family for years and years.

Take your time deciding and good luck!

 

[BoomBoom]

My honest opinion... In your situation, I think it is also as important to ask whether she is ready for another conure. She must be aware of the dangers common household practices can pose to a little bird before you invest your heart and soul on another one. If she is ready, then consider if you are ready as well

 

[MikeyTN]

It helps me to fill the void before when I loss a puppy as I took it quite hard. I did get another one after a couple of months after losing the first....The new one never replaces the old one. It does help you cope to a certain extent. So go have a visit and see how you feel.

 

[DannyA93]

My honest opinion... In your situation, I think it is also as important to ask whether she is ready for another conure. She must be aware of the dangers common household practices can pose to a little bird before you invest your heart and soul on another one. If she is ready, then consider if you are ready as well

Yes Ill make sure she is, but if I get this baby he will never be alone with her. I know it's harsh but I don't trust her with my birds anymore. And I'll be moving into my own apartment in a couple months so he'll be out of that household completely and safe with me. After that move there won't be any major changes anytime soon.

 

[DannyA93]

Thank you guys so much. Idk what I would do without this forum I get to visit him and a couple others tomorrow morning and I'm a bit nervous to tell you the truth. I have no idea how I'm gonna feel when I get there. I'll post pictures regardless if I decide to take him or not. I know how much we all love baby pictures

 

[RavensGryf]

Since you say it'll only be a couple months until you move out, it would actually be ideal to wait til then. That is if you can stand it! I know what it's like when you see it and want it NOW. It's just that if you get it now, for the next couple months, what about times when you're out of the house and your mom is the only one home with it? It can't be avoided since you can't literally never leave the house. Besides if you're so weary about it now that you'll feel uncomfortable leaving the house when your mom's home, then that is something to think about too. Good luck

 

[DannyA93]

Well my mom works all day so I'm always home before she gets out of work so that'll be easy to avoid but the thing I was most worried about was the stress of moving twice! I had my others for about 3 years and how I traveled with them it shouldn't be too much on him.

 

[DannyA93]

Well that didn't work out very well.. So I asked for their address to go see said baby and they gave it to me but when my gps took me to some random place I called and they failed to mention that they were no longer in my town but in fact moved to a city three hours away from me.. So my apologies for not having pictures/: and the only other breeder that was here in town closed due to the owner passing away. So unless a random thing happens that allows me to make the trip I guess it just wasn't meant to be../:

 

[veimar]

Danny, random things CAN happen if you keep your heart open to opportunities. I think it all worked out for good… It is YOU who should decide about getting a new bird, not your mom. There are so many wonderful birds in the shelters or even on craigslist who need your love! The right one(s) will come when you are ready.