so this is my first post on here as i literally just found this forum about 30 minutes ago so be nice but i need some help with a 18 year old female blue and gold macaw. (pictures attached)
the conditions here are a little specific so i havenāt been able to find anything super super useful. also, iām going to refer to the bird (Joe) as male but heās actually female (iāll get to that later).
ok so hereās the story: my great grandmother (bless her heart) LOVED animals so sheās always had a bunch of dogs and cats and birds and sugar gliders and basically any other animal you can think of, even if it was at the sake of her and my grandfatherās health. so Joe has been around a bunch of animals but always hated them so heās never really been the nicest of birds. however, i was always super close with my grandmother and she got Joe at 6 months old when i was a year old so he only really ever tolerated me and her. so this is why i inherited him when they both passed earlier this month (notebook style, might i add ā RIP mamo and papa, i loved them both very very dearly ā¤ļø). anyways, the breeder she bought him from told her he was a male so i guess she never thought to get him genetically or surgically tested, but when i was 13 he laid an egg. at this point, Joe has been a boy for 13 years but surprise surprise: Joe is actually a Jolene. i donāt think that technically matters but maybe males and females behave differently?
anyways, heās staying at my dadās about 45 minutes away because i canāt keep him at my momās or boyfriendās. heās never had an issue with not seeing me for a while since heās lived with my grandparents my whole life and when im able to get my own apartment heāll be able to move in with me and iāll be able to socialize 1-on-1 with him more. i say he wonāt have too big of an issue mostly because my dadās girlfriend is able to socialize with him as well. also, when i went to pick him up from my grandmotherās friendās house (he had to stay with her for about a week because i was in the hospital with my grandparents and we thought the house mightāve had carbon monoxide), she was telling me Joe was being quiet and seemed depressed until i turned the corner and he saw me and then he was back to normal. my dad and his girlfriend also have a male blue and gold macaw (actually male this time) and their cages are beside eachother and they are able to get out and have been flirting with eachother so itās not a territorial issue and heāll be able to have a āflock.ā
anyways, the main issue. the main issue here is that Joe gets a kick out of being mean and is also territorial but not over his cage, toys, or food ā heās territorial over ME. heāll only take food from me or my grandmother - his options have been really limited here obviously - but when i try to give him a grape heāll reach for it and then try to bite my finger at the last second so iāll drop the grape and heāll laugh (he laughs just like mamo btw š„²). we also tried socializing him with my boyfriend since we want him more used to men and heās never liked my dad and has only ever been around papa but when my boyfriend leaned over to kiss me Joe lunged forward and lifted his wings like he wanted to attack but he canāt fly so he really couldnāt do much.
i also want to mention he canāt fly because he was never outside much. he had an outdoor cage when i was younger and would be outside during the warmer months but he just never learned to fly. he also hadnāt been out of a cage in YEARS which really sucks to say but my grandmotherās health declined and she wasnāt taking care of him properly. when i was younger and he was given more attention he would get out of the cage and play with me and wasnāt so hostile, but as mamo got older he stayed in the cage more and she wouldnāt buy him more toys because he destroys even huge wooden toys in about 2 days. and this was when he was out of the cage too. anyways, he resorted to hostility and honestly borderline violence to get his entertainment. for example, if you walked past his cage heād lunge forward and screech and bite the cage really hard so it makes a weird and loud noise and heād laugh if you jumped.
BUT hereās the good news: heās not so mean now that heās out. i saw him both days last weekend and he was like an entirely different bird out of the cage. for the first time in honestly about 10-12 years, i was actually able to pet him without the fear of him biting me. i was also able to touch his wings (not much, just tap the bottom and tell him to āshow me pretty birdā - an old trick he used to know to show us his wingspan). AND - iām so ecstatic about this - he STOOD ON MY ARM. i didnāt have to tell him to step up or anything he just stepped on there when i was petting him. he didnāt stay for long tho he used his beak on me and i got scared and put him back on the cage because my grandmother had scars all along her arms from where heād randomly bite. looking back now, he was probably just using it to situate himself but given his criminal history i got a little spooked.
anyways iām probably leaving things out, but this is my lifelong recollection of Joe. all this to say: does anyone have tips on basically just how to make them nicer? i know macaws donāt respond to negative reinforcement but it honestly seems like even if they did Joe wouldnāt respond to even a drill sergeant. heās still destroying toys and is still territorial over me but iām going to my dads by myself today to spend quite a few hours with him so iāll see how he does without my boyfriend in the room. i know iām probably not the best macaw owner but i also didnāt expect to inherit him for like another 5-10 years and my grandparentsā deaths were very sudden. iām willing to do what i can to adapt and give him the life he deserves. iāll keep yall updated on how he does today but for now, anything yall have to offer will help.
the conditions here are a little specific so i havenāt been able to find anything super super useful. also, iām going to refer to the bird (Joe) as male but heās actually female (iāll get to that later).
ok so hereās the story: my great grandmother (bless her heart) LOVED animals so sheās always had a bunch of dogs and cats and birds and sugar gliders and basically any other animal you can think of, even if it was at the sake of her and my grandfatherās health. so Joe has been around a bunch of animals but always hated them so heās never really been the nicest of birds. however, i was always super close with my grandmother and she got Joe at 6 months old when i was a year old so he only really ever tolerated me and her. so this is why i inherited him when they both passed earlier this month (notebook style, might i add ā RIP mamo and papa, i loved them both very very dearly ā¤ļø). anyways, the breeder she bought him from told her he was a male so i guess she never thought to get him genetically or surgically tested, but when i was 13 he laid an egg. at this point, Joe has been a boy for 13 years but surprise surprise: Joe is actually a Jolene. i donāt think that technically matters but maybe males and females behave differently?
anyways, heās staying at my dadās about 45 minutes away because i canāt keep him at my momās or boyfriendās. heās never had an issue with not seeing me for a while since heās lived with my grandparents my whole life and when im able to get my own apartment heāll be able to move in with me and iāll be able to socialize 1-on-1 with him more. i say he wonāt have too big of an issue mostly because my dadās girlfriend is able to socialize with him as well. also, when i went to pick him up from my grandmotherās friendās house (he had to stay with her for about a week because i was in the hospital with my grandparents and we thought the house mightāve had carbon monoxide), she was telling me Joe was being quiet and seemed depressed until i turned the corner and he saw me and then he was back to normal. my dad and his girlfriend also have a male blue and gold macaw (actually male this time) and their cages are beside eachother and they are able to get out and have been flirting with eachother so itās not a territorial issue and heāll be able to have a āflock.ā
anyways, the main issue. the main issue here is that Joe gets a kick out of being mean and is also territorial but not over his cage, toys, or food ā heās territorial over ME. heāll only take food from me or my grandmother - his options have been really limited here obviously - but when i try to give him a grape heāll reach for it and then try to bite my finger at the last second so iāll drop the grape and heāll laugh (he laughs just like mamo btw š„²). we also tried socializing him with my boyfriend since we want him more used to men and heās never liked my dad and has only ever been around papa but when my boyfriend leaned over to kiss me Joe lunged forward and lifted his wings like he wanted to attack but he canāt fly so he really couldnāt do much.
i also want to mention he canāt fly because he was never outside much. he had an outdoor cage when i was younger and would be outside during the warmer months but he just never learned to fly. he also hadnāt been out of a cage in YEARS which really sucks to say but my grandmotherās health declined and she wasnāt taking care of him properly. when i was younger and he was given more attention he would get out of the cage and play with me and wasnāt so hostile, but as mamo got older he stayed in the cage more and she wouldnāt buy him more toys because he destroys even huge wooden toys in about 2 days. and this was when he was out of the cage too. anyways, he resorted to hostility and honestly borderline violence to get his entertainment. for example, if you walked past his cage heād lunge forward and screech and bite the cage really hard so it makes a weird and loud noise and heād laugh if you jumped.
BUT hereās the good news: heās not so mean now that heās out. i saw him both days last weekend and he was like an entirely different bird out of the cage. for the first time in honestly about 10-12 years, i was actually able to pet him without the fear of him biting me. i was also able to touch his wings (not much, just tap the bottom and tell him to āshow me pretty birdā - an old trick he used to know to show us his wingspan). AND - iām so ecstatic about this - he STOOD ON MY ARM. i didnāt have to tell him to step up or anything he just stepped on there when i was petting him. he didnāt stay for long tho he used his beak on me and i got scared and put him back on the cage because my grandmother had scars all along her arms from where heād randomly bite. looking back now, he was probably just using it to situate himself but given his criminal history i got a little spooked.
anyways iām probably leaving things out, but this is my lifelong recollection of Joe. all this to say: does anyone have tips on basically just how to make them nicer? i know macaws donāt respond to negative reinforcement but it honestly seems like even if they did Joe wouldnāt respond to even a drill sergeant. heās still destroying toys and is still territorial over me but iām going to my dads by myself today to spend quite a few hours with him so iāll see how he does without my boyfriend in the room. i know iām probably not the best macaw owner but i also didnāt expect to inherit him for like another 5-10 years and my grandparentsā deaths were very sudden. iām willing to do what i can to adapt and give him the life he deserves. iāll keep yall updated on how he does today but for now, anything yall have to offer will help.