I've had this discussion with other parrot enthusiasts, and the thing that seems to bother people is tht they feel like their birds are being valued more or less based on whether they can mimic human speech. I don't think it is always the case when someon asks, I think it is more like parrots can be intimidating and hearing them "talk" is an interaction they can enjoy without crossing a boundary. That's just what I interpret because a lot of my non-bird friends are really kind of afraid of them.
I've had parrots since I was 5 and never had on talk until I was 25. Its not what makes me love them. But for a lot of folks, the only thing they know about parrots is that some can talk so its the only question they know to ask. You can look at is as an opportunity to show someone how awesome parrots can be in other respects
I always felt really bothered by people who keep parrots because they are pretty, and have no idea that they're incredibly capable of being loving companions. You'd be surprised how astonished people are when I show them that you can hold a parakeet.