Advice Needed.

[bluefeather]

I can honestly say that you and scarlet have made my day. I had a rare Tuesday off work and had the forum up on my home office computer to force myself to not look at my work email. So I was following a number of threads. But you two have been in my mind all day. I work around grief all the time and the emotional survivors of trauma are usually those who find something (sometimes great sometimes small) that they can control and connect to. You have done that with Scarlet and given your friend a great service. You could not prevent her loss but with your compassion and intuition you have relieved her pets distress. It was an honor to share a corner of your effort today.

Thank you so much for thinking of us and for your advice. This morning, when I went to change Scarlet's food and water, I thought it would be good to try to pick her up again. As soon as I put my hand in her cage, she moved near me and her gestures indicated that she wanted me to hold her. I did and again rubbed her chest with my thumb. Now, I am more used to working with her 1 foot, so as not to hurt her. After I put her back down, she watched me feed the rest of my kids. Then, we listened to the news together. I think it might be good to take her out of her cage , in my hand and see how she reacts. I think my daughter has accepted me

 

[bluefeather]

It would depend on how much activity there is in the living room after she goes to bed whether or not to fully cover her, if the lights are on or the TV is on it would be best to cover her fully, birds need a good 12hrs + of peaceful uninteruped sleep, otherwise you may have a cranky little bird to contend with, just a suggestion, but I know I see the difference in my guys if I keep them up to late and they don't get their beauty sleep

Thank you, Bobby. I will start to cover her completely. I have a sofabed that I sleep on in the living room and prior to that , I watch TV with the lights on. While I don't stay up late, Scarlet is exposed to TV and light for about 2 hrs after I cover her. I've always covered my other cages completely, but I thought Scarlet might be scared, not seeing me, under the circumstances. Scarlet and I appreciate your advice

 

[bogo1]

Hope all goes well for you both today.

 

[bluefeather]

Hope all goes well for you both today.

Thank you. I am a TYPE A personality...worry, worry. I appreciate your support.

 

[bogo1]

One type A to another ...you've got it.

 

[bluefeather]

I had Scarlet in my hand and out of the cage. I was able to hold her securely while worrying about her 1 foot and not hurting her. I walked around a little, talking to her and she let me kiss her. Should I try her on my shoulder as her late owner did or is it too soon. When she flies, she has difficulty landing and I saw that in her prior home. She didn't go far with my late friend but since we are adjusting to each other, I'm a little reluctant. I don't want to cause her injury. Would appreciate advice. Thanks.

 

[bogo1]

I would wait on shoulders for now. She and you are getting what you need without that. Take your time and enjoy.

 

[bluefeather]

I would wait on shoulders for now. She and you are getting what you need without that. Take your time and enjoy.

Thank you. Should I increase Scarlet's time out of the cage, in my hand or keep it about the same--15 min- for a few days. She is so much calmer, it's wonderful to see. She's not at all afraid when I put my hand in the cage. She even comes towards me.

 

[bogo1]

Just do what "feels right" now. You are the best judge of her body language, fatigue, anxiety and contentment. And don't forget to "check your own pulse" for you also have been through a lot. By that, I mean, just do what feels natural to you and Scarlett as you move into your life together. You have made a huge difference for her already.

 

[bluefeather]

Just do what "feels right" now. You are the best judge of her body language, fatigue, anxiety and contentment. And don't forget to "check your own pulse" for you also have been through a lot. By that, I mean, just do what feels natural to you and Scarlett as you move into your life together. You have made a huge difference for her already.

Thank you. My Type A personality keeps kicking in. I will let Scarlet guide me. As you say, her body language, etc. will tell me