A long rambling post about my senegal

[Mariss]

Okay. I am sorry if it is going to be a long, rambling post. But there is something on my mind. I have 4 amazing parrots, 1 Jardines, 1 Meyer and 2 Senegals. This question is about one of my senegals.

She, Sjimmie is her name, is around 14 years old. And so sweet! For me. That's why I have this question. I still live with my parents, and my little sister.
I already said she is sweet and amazing for me. I rescued her about 2 years ago. She was in a basement, is a little canary cage, with little to no food and water.

I guess she knows that I rescued her. She attacks everyone who comes close to me. She is a jumper, she jumps, bites, and, seriously I am not kidding, laughs.
My parents and sister are afraid of her, so I can only get her out of her cage in my bedroom. And that is bothering me. I can't get her anywhere. She deserves that.

Another thing. I can't go on holiday. Nobody in my surroundings want to take care of her because she is a little gremlin.
My other parrots are sweet for everyone so that isn't a problem.
I admit, I did take her a little fast without really thinking about it. But in the beginning it was going good! She liked my mom, like a lot. But I am the only one she is thinking about.

She wants to mate with me, even though I don't 'stimulate' it.
Another thing. I live in the Netherlands, and I really want to have an internship in the UK. My parents are like 'we will take care of the birds! But, remember, Sjimmie can't go out of her cage! '

Gosh, this is already a long post. You ask why I won't 'just' do it?
Because she is my best mate. Even though I have 3 other parrots, she is like my 'pitbull'. I trust her, she trusts me. I live in a rough neighborhood, and I'd rather have her with me, then my dog.
She makes me laugh, and honestly. I would feel guilty, but I know she would like it more to be the 'princess' of the bunch. The only bird. She needs like a 'fresh start'. Where her room isn't just a cage in a room.

What do you think of this? Any tips? Neither my parents or my sister wants to train with her. And honestly, Sjimmie doesn't want to either.
I did try with my dad. I have given him gloves, kitchen gloves. She couldn't bite through it. She didn't bite through it. But she jumped to his neck. Seriously,

I will stop now. Thank you for reading

 

[Flboy]

Wow, a real tough spot!

 

[kq_fan]

Wow that is something but to tell you the truth, I was literally in the same boat except, I was in your families shoes and not yours. My dad got a Senegal Sonic. He loved my dad and basically worshiped him. But he did not want anyone to touch his "mate" (my dad) but I did manage to make a relationship with Sonic. So I suggest your family could just sit by Sjimmie and talk to her, read to her and bond with her through the cage so she can know that they are not bad. Now I will say, she may never like them, that is how sennies are. But if they spend time with her and try to give her treats while she is in her cage, It will help. But she will still be possessive over you. That is my best answer I'm sorry I can't say more. Now I do not have sonic anymore but that was due to a family illness and we had to downsize the pets. I had 18 pets but now I have 14. So good luck and I hope this helps a little!

 

[Mariss]

Wow that is something but to tell you the truth, I was literally in the same boat except, I was in your families shoes and not yours. My dad got a Senegal Sonic. He loved my dad and basically worshiped him. But he did not want anyone to touch his "mate" (my dad) but I did manage to make a relationship with Sonic. So I suggest your family could just sit by Sjimmie and talk to her, read to her and bond with her through the cage so she can know that they are not bad. Now I will say, she may never like them, that is how sennies are. But if they spend time with her and try to give her treats while she is in her cage, It will help. But she will still be possessive over you. That is my best answer I'm sorry I can't say more. Now I do not have sonic anymore but that was due to a family illness and we had to downsize the pets. I had 18 pets but now I have 14. So good luck and I hope this helps a little!

Thank you for your response.
My family did dad. Just sitting there, talking a little bit, but she just tried to attack. She walks backwards, and sprint to attack.
She also don't want to take any treats from them.
Sometimes I wonder if I did something wrong, but I didn't. I gave her love, but not to much. I didn't treat her any other way.

I just don't know anymore. I am afraid that if I chose to re home her, that she is going to be miserable. But if I am going to keep her, that I can't go anywhere longer then 4 days, because she needs me.

 

[kq_fan]

Yes, Sonic did that too, attacked even when your being nice. They are confusing animals at times. But it takes time. I was with him every day and was able to hold him. But when my dad was around, there was no hope for him liking me. If they try to be with her, let them be alone with her. But if they are afraid of her, Sjimmie will know and manipulate it. It can also make her nervous if your family is afraid too. But I know its very hard to not feel fear and some just can't turn off their feelings. Are you ever alone in the house so you can go out of your room with Sjimmi? Or a place in the house when you can just bond with her? And while you are with her, train her things! Sjimmi will enjoy that a lot! That helps bonding

 

[Mariss]

She will manipulate. She laughs at them when they are afraid. And that's scary. Also I can't 'just' leave her in another, strange, room, ask my parents to 'deal' with her. Because I live in a little apartment, she has been literally in every room a couple of times.
She comes with me in the living room when I am home a lone, but it is still scary, because we have a cat and a dog, and well. She will attack them also if she has a chance.

It is just hard. I was a wake most of the night, just turning a round in my bed, thinking if I should re home her and if I am just 'giving up' on her if I do. It is just hard. For now my state of mind is; She stays, unless there is someone who just comes to me. Where the connection is.

 

[kq_fan]

Are you sure you can't just be with her in another room? Maybe dont let her have the chance to attack. Its hard but possible. I am really sorry you are having to go through this.

 

[Mariss]

I can't believe I am saying this, but there in possible an new owner in sight.
He is EXACTLY what I pictured;
- Experienced
- No kids
- No other birds

He had birds, but after his divorce, his ex has had taken them. He was searching for the 'perfect, troubled' bird. Because he want to give another bird a chance.
It hurts so much. I KNOW it is better for her. But it hurts. My mind knows is ready to let go, my heart isn't yet.
He understands, and is saying he isn't in a hurry. But I am afraid my mind is pulling back. I give myself a couple of days. Then I think I am going to say that he can come look, he doesn't have to take her right away. He can think about it.
But he is PERFECT for her. That is what is scaring me. I said a lot of bad things about her, but in between the lines I said her amazing personality.
This is hard
Loving is easy, letting go isn't