12 and half years down the drain

[strudel]

Animals can be very sensitive when you aren't feeling well. My next door neighbour (years ago) was epileptic and her cat would come to her when she was going to have a fit, and stayed with her afterwards. Your partner may have changed her feelings, but you've still got love in your life from your animals.

Maybe thinking about it differently than having been a total waste might help you feel better and have a better outlook? I don't know, but something to talk about with your doctor(s)? I know that there are issues there, but try not to focus so much on what isn't, keep a little bit of "maybe" in there. (I know, I know, easier said than done). Hang in there, nil desperandum and all that.

 

[Abigal7]

Wow, I am sorry you are going through this. Yes, if I were in your situation I would make sure I got my money back too. Maybe you can take Henpecked up on his offer. I would talk to a realtor about what housing options you have. Maybe see if you can look into work at home jobs etc. I believe animals have a sense when we do not feel good, when something is not right, or if someone is not excited about them. I do not know where you live except you live a long drive away from me but I wish the best and hope you find some people that can help you. I wonder if you can get any government/ state assistance. But I do not know the details of that.

 

[chippy]

My heart goes out to you. I can not imagine how difficult this must be for you. Sometimes it is difficult to see, but please believe that things can and will get better... (((hugs)))

 

[Jumpingtadpoles]

Your not hiding behind a keyboard, your finding your able to express yourself with a keyboard.

I have been in similar shoes regarding the depression, losing a partner, and the fear of being able to take care of myself. It worked out for me, and us splitting ways actually made me so much healthier. I don't even recognize myself anymore....

Things will change if you work hard to do it...
When I changed my food, I changed my life.... Just sayin...

 

[faeryphoebe1]

You are such a beautiful person. That empathetic, sincere heart of yours has always shone through in your posts. (((Hugs)))

I'm so sorry that you're going through this hardship. Why do the worst things happen to the best people? Sigh. You're a very special person who still has much love to give. Just take it one day at a time. The depression makes things trickier but you'll get through this.

 

[MonicaMc]

Heck, I'm tempted by henpeckeds offer!


I'm kind of late in catching up on things... and am so sorry to hear you are going through this! Animals can be such amazing and special creatures! It's often why I prefer them to humans a lot of the times! If need be, I'm sure there are people that, if capable, would be willing to foster Valentino until you are able to get back up on your feet.


Please hang in there and know we're thinking of you! :60: :60: :60:

 

[Jumpingtadpoles]

It's often why I prefer them to humans a lot of the times! If need be, I'm sure there are people that, if capable, would be willing to foster Valentino until you are able to get back up on your feet.

That is a great idea! I would offer if I lived near you! I live on Vancouver island though

 

[BoomBoom]

Hi NobleMacaw,

How are you? I'm sorry I just saw your thread. I can relate to your plight and I just want to say, hang in there, things WILL get better! Not right away, but you will come out of that dark hole even better and happier than before!!!

My partner of 9 years also decided to part ways with me exactly one year ago (Thanksgiving of all days!). It was very confusing and scary separating our lives like that, much the way you are feeling now. I will tell you that my little sun conure, Boomer, kept me strong and sane through it all. Valentino WILL do the same for you! Having to care for him will allow you to not dwell so much on the negative. He will give you a reason to get out of bed everyday. Right now, you are number one. Your well being comes first. No one else matters for now but you and your pets. It's not you being cruel or insensitive to your ex. You have to do it for your own survival. Maybe later you can accept their friendship, but focus on healing for now. That can't happen when they're around.

Henpecked gave you such an awesome offer, hopefully it is something that you can work out. Try to keep Valentino if you can (and your kitty). They will help get you through this! My thoughts are with you. Please PM me if you need to talk or just vent.

 

[Blueridge]

My parents broke up a couple months ago after 19 years of marriage. The depression gained from a newly broken family is truly heart wrenching. Sadly, this is the fate for a lot of loved ones. It's a very sad time but I'm positive you can fight through it.

Read my quote below. Best of luck to you.

 

[noblemacaw]

I want to thank everyone for their encouraging words and sharing their personal stories with me. I can really feel a lot of love on this form and I am very thankful for it.

For my update it has been very tough for me. There have been ups and downs but unfortunately I have been dealing with my depression on top of my partner calling it quits. We still live in the same house because I cannot support myself. I put in my equity from my last home into this one and I will not move out. I need to suddenly become independent on top of all my health problems.

I am fortunate to be a veteran of the US Navy so I have medical coverage though the VA. I have been with the VA since 2005 and they have saved my life when I had my cancer in 2008. I try everyday to move forward toward my independence. For now I am going to start a three week day treatment where I receive care though the Hospital during the day as I am suffering from being severely depressed. It is my hope I can address a lot of the issues though this day treatment program. I also will be looking into employment help. I have been out of my field for almost 4 years and will have to update my skills before employers would have any interest in me. I also have to deal with my asthma which is traditionally much worse in the winter/spring.

I have a lot going against me right now. The time of year sucks and I need to be strong enough to plug on and get stuff done. Valentino is a great source of comfort for me. He is very affectionate with me and he keeps me on a schedule with his care.

On a more positive note I have a lot of support though my sister and her family. Lupe is flying out on Wednesday for 10 days to visit her family. I get the house to myself for 10 days. I am looking forward to that as that will be way less stress on me than having a roommate who use to be my partner.

Again thank you everyone for your kind words and encouragement posts.

 

[MikeyTN]

I hope everything goes well for you!!!! IF you ever needed someone to talk to, just prvt me. If you want to talk on the phone, I can give you my number to call. I'm a good listener and I've been there with my partner leaving me in the past and have been depressed in the past but I toss all that out the window and regain my strength and supported myself to get where I'm at today.