EllenD
Thank you for your input! I love how you type out such a detailed response. It really helps. I would like to keep her flighted, I just thought I'd see what others thought about this. Whatever is best for Pita is what I'll do, even if I have to work around it.
You're very welcome, and I appreciate you coming here and asking for input on this topic, because it's a very controversial topic with bird-lovers/owners. And while I myself have always understood why it's such a hot-topic with bird-owners, I have also always tried to keep a totally open-mind about it and look at it from both-sides of the argument, and approach it that way. I truly believe that clipping your bird's wings is a totally, 100% personal choice that only the bird's owner can make. And while it's totally fine and appropriate for others to give their input about it and give people both sides of the story in a fair way, ultimately we shouldn't judge anyone who keeps their bird's wings clipped, because there are very legitimate reasons why some people keep their birds clipped...
I know there are a couple of long-time, senior members of this forum who are very well-respected and loved who keep their bird's wings clipped all the time, and for very legitimate reasons that usually pertain to the safety of their birds and the people in their household. I know a few of them have spouses or other family members living in their homes that are disabled or have handicaps that keep them from being able to chase-down a stubborn bird who can fly and refuses to come back to them, or who cannot physically get to their bird if they are constantly perching up-high in their homes. And if they are the only people who are typically home all day long with the bird every day of the week, then this could easily become a safety issue for the bird. So there are very legitimate reasons to keep your bird's wings clipped full-time...
That being said, it's always going to be better for your bird to keep them fully-flighted, better for their physical health, better for their psychological health, and has to have an impact on them living-out their full lifespans.
This is no different than thinking about what is better for the health of people...Obviously we all know that when people are active and get exercise every day, they are going to be much healthier all the way around than people who are sedintary and just lay around all day long every day. This goes for not only people, but also for birds, dogs, cats, ferrets, rabbits, pigs, goats, cows, horses, you name it, it applies. So if it's at all possible to keep your bird fully-flighted and allow them to exercise every day, that's what is best for your bird...However, there are situations where temporarily clipping your bird's wings with a conservative wing-clip that will last about 2-3 months before they can fly again will serve to help training/taming a bird. The key is that you must take full-advantage of that short 2-3 month period where your bird cannot fly, working with them every single day on taming/training sessions, so that when that 2-3 months is up and your bird can fully-fly again, their behavior has changed and your relationship with them has been strengthened. If you clip your bird's wings with the thought of using the time to train them/tame them and then you fail to work with them every day and take full-advantage of the time that they are clipped, then nothing will change after their wings grow back in and it was all for nothing...
***I would do some research and perhaps make an entirely new post here in the forum, describing the issues between your bird and your mom in full-detail, and allow our experienced members to give you advice and make suggestions about things you can try to make the relationship between your bird and your mom better....
Something to keep in-mind is that even if you were to clip your bird's wings, the only thing that would change would be that he would no-longer be able fly at your mom, that's it, that's all that would change. The underlying issues and your bird's overall-behavior and attitude towards your mom would not at all change simply because you clip his wings!! You would have to actively do something, change something, etc. for your bird's behavior towards your mom to change and improve for the better, and your mom would obviously have to be willing to participate and work with your bird on a daily basis as well...Simply clipping his wings to prevent him from flying at your mother with aggression would only serve as perhaps a safety-mechanism, but nothing more than that. So getting some advice, suggestions, and training/bonding exercise ideas from our experts here in the forum that your mom can do with your bird on a daily basis and things that she can change as far as how she reacts to your bird, etc. would be the place to start to bring them closer together, and not by simply clipping his wings...