A simple party somewhere sounds nice. Hubbs wants to do vows again(and ones we have ourselves written), but isn't set on it. I think I'd be fine either way on that. I'm not someone who likes to be the center of attention either lol
Hubbs family are quite judgemental though unfortunately, and that certainly complicates things. They inheirited some money from my husband's grandfather and so they just assume everyone else is poor and if you don't have a phd you may as well need care staff. His aunt literally told him that he didn't know me and he needed to be careful because I only wanted him for his money. She has met me twice: once at a Thanksgiving party she was hosting(we didn't talk, but she still found things to gossip about me after for... specifically that I liked to have fun while working my RESEARCH job in a FEDERAL LAB(so clearly I am stupid. Because I like to play while I work.), and again at her son's wedding(spoke for like 5 minutes). And based on that she thought she knew me better than my now husband does. It's a whole thing. Hubbs has dislexia and adhd, so despite him testing well into the "gifted" IQ range, they have always written him off as "special needs". So clearly his judgement on my character couldn't possibly be sound. Grrrrr
My family is nearly the opposite. We have money too, but we don't have it sitting in a trust fund. Various members of my family invested in land and tractors and are farmers. But they all(other than us) have hobby farms and they have money from elsewhere. Aka not broke. Priced out a large excavator lately? Yeah, your luxury car is cute, but like a quarter of the price and useless. Grrr lol can you tell I don't like the way they judged my family? We work hard, even if we don't have to. Strong millitary ties will do that to ya. And while most in my family do not have phd's, we are HIGHLY gifted. Physics teachers, advanced degrees from prestigious universities, writers, published researchers etc etc etc. But because we are farmers in our spare time we are poor and stupid? LOL Ok Sharon(not anyone's name). But they are also the opposite in judgey-ness. They have their problems, sure, but they are as accepting and loving and supportive as could be. Even the crazy ones! Lol
Sorry for the little rant there. Hubbs is also not fond of his aunt and is considering not inviting her to the wedding. As much as that would probably make the day more pleasant, I don't think that is the right call. She is still his mother's sister, and she should be invited. Crammed into a small table in the corner with all the other people we "have" to invite but don't want to? Suuuuuuure. But I think we should still invite her if for no other reason than to not sour his mother's time at our wedding. Shrug.
Yaaaay drama! My favorite thing(not!!)