RIP Phillip, you'll be missed...

[NightEule5]

I haven't been on here for a while. I've been meaning to post this for a while, but couldn't find the words.

It's been a little more than 2 weeks since Phillip died. We don't know the cause, as we never had a necropsy done. He was only with us for a week, and I still miss him. His cage is still sitting exactly how it was when he died.

He had a very unique personality. He did what he wanted and didn't like when people tried to get him to do anything else. He would fly to someone, and if anyone else tried to pick him up he would lift his wings and squawk in protest. He loved to sit on my brother's laptop when he was playing games (he loved the heat coming out of the vents). When siting on the laptop, when I tried to scratch his head he would get sassy with me and say, "no" in his own way. He always knew exactly where the treat bag was, however hard I tried to hide it he'd always find it and try to get into it. He loved tearing up newspaper, he'd never play with the toys in his cage. Just the newspaper in the bottom.

To say I haven't been depressed would be lying. Even though I only knew him for a week, we bonded instantly. He was fine the day before, and the next day he was gone. I'm atheist which makes it all the more depressing.

He helped me with my mental health within days of getting him. My sleep schedule was getting better, I thought I'd be able to go off my anti-depressants. Now I don't know what to do.

The breeder has been really supportive. She said that when I'm ready for it she'd like to offer me another. I don't think another parrot could ever be the same, and I'd feel guilty about it anyway.

I don't mean to get everyone down. Snuggle your parrots for me!

 

[Jen5200]

I’ve been wondering how you’re doing. I’m heart-broken for you, that was such a sudden and unexpected event. I hope you’ll consider another avian companion one day, when you are ready. Another bird, at the right time, would never replace Phillip - but may find a way into your heart. Feathered hugs from my flock.

 

[ChristaNL]

I am so sorry - it is never okay or easy to lose the parrot-love-of-your-life.


(I still miss my first grey and he has been gone for half my lifetime.)
And yes- another parrot will make you feel conflicted: it will also be a wonderfull bird, but it will never be *THE* bird.
and you know what?
That is okay!
Really!
As long as you do not expect it to be another *the bird* but can find it in your heart to love and appreciate that new one for who he/she really is ...that is fine.


(while I am typing this the radio plays "Nothing compares to you", so I will put this in as well)


You will sometimes compare the birds - its a human thing to do, but as long as there are no values attached (he did this better, was cuter, was messier) that is fine too.
Some people will blame animals for not living up to their expectations -you do not sound like one of those: you liked Phillip for who he was.


I am not a doctor, but if you need the help of some meds to help you to remain stable through this period of grief and adjustment - accept that help (just talk to your doc. about it?)... some times we need all the hep we can get, not matter what form of shape they come in.


(and even atheïst are allowed to believe in some sort of Heaven a little bit even if you do not want any of the other stuff -- there is life and love, and I like to think that love never dies ... like the energy will be there in some form always)

 

[LaManuka]

Thank you for posting, I’ve been wondering and worrying about you too!

My recently departed GCC was the love of my life too. Somehow they just seem capable of taking over your whole life, whether you have them for a week or a decade or more, I don’t know how they do it but they do. It may take a while before you’re ready to try again and it’s important to give yourself whatever time and space you need to grieve for Phillip. But he will always be in your heart.

We hear you and we are here for you.

 

[Flboy]

I am so sorry for your hurt an loss!

 

[GaleriaGila]

You didn't bring us down. You allowed us to share a beautiful bond. My friend, you saw your little darling out in the best way, as a treasured member of the family. I know in my heart that that lasts int Eternity and beyond. I hope to do the same for my little love, the Rb, when the time comes.
I'm honored that you shared this with us.

 

[Laurasea]

I believe in the interconnectedness of all things. Phillip brought you to us, that was one if his gifts to you and us! Might I recommend you find a rescue or bird in need of a new home when the time is right? So many need the type of loving home you would provide... I'm glad you are still a part of our community!

 

[Terry57]

I am so sorry for your loss of Phillip. I know how much he was loved in that week he was with you, and so many birds never know that feeling. Thank you for being there for him, and when the time is right I know that somewhere out there another bird is going to be lucky enough to have you find him & bring him home.

 

[Rozalka]

I am so sorry for your loss!

 

[Scott]

I am so sorry to learn Phillip has passed. There are no words to account for the unknowing loss of what was already an incredibly close bond.

 

[Davesgirl93]

I haven't been on here for a while. I've been meaning to post this for a while, but couldn't find the words.

It's been a little more than 2 weeks since Phillip died. We don't know the cause, as we never had a necropsy done. He was only with us for a week, and I still miss him. His cage is still sitting exactly how it was when he died.

He had a very unique personality. He did what he wanted and didn't like when people tried to get him to do anything else. He would fly to someone, and if anyone else tried to pick him up he would lift his wings and squawk in protest. He loved to sit on my brother's laptop when he was playing games (he loved the heat coming out of the vents). When siting on the laptop, when I tried to scratch his head he would get sassy with me and say, "no" in his own way. He always knew exactly where the treat bag was, however hard I tried to hide it he'd always find it and try to get into it. He loved tearing up newspaper, he'd never play with the toys in his cage. Just the newspaper in the bottom.

To say I haven't been depressed would be lying. Even though I only knew him for a week, we bonded instantly. He was fine the day before, and the next day he was gone. I'm atheist which makes it all the more depressing.

He helped me with my mental health within days of getting him. My sleep schedule was getting better, I thought I'd be able to go off my anti-depressants. Now I don't know what to do.

The breeder has been really supportive. She said that when I'm ready for it she'd like to offer me another. I don't think another parrot could ever be the same, and I'd feel guilty about it anyway.

I don't mean to get everyone down. Snuggle your parrots for me!

Awww, so sorry about your loss. I'd be devastated, I came close but he pulled through. I've had lots of pets in my life but none yet have compared to my bird. The bond was amazingly strong very quickly.

If I could suggest one thing though? You're right - no other bird's personality will match, but there's a ton of birds thrown away because they didn't have someone like you willing to love them so whole-heartedly. Consider just peeking at some adoptable birds, you may find one that strikes your interest and you could very well be saving their life. Its not just us humans that get depressed when we lose a loved one Just a suggestion, you certainly don't have to make any decisions. I bet there's a bird out there that needs you as much as you may need it :smile015:

 

[NightEule5]

Thanks for your support guys, it means a lot!

 

[EllenD]

I'm very sorry that this happened to you, it's never easy to lose a family member, but when someone that you love enters your life and then leaves it so quickly and so suddenly, it's hard to understand why you met them in the first place...I'm not at all religious either, never have been, I usually refer to myself as being "Agnostic", so I understand what you're talking about...

But make no mistake, God or no God, there was a very specific reason that Phillip was brought into your life, you wrote it in your initial post without even realizing it. He helped you with your mental health issues and your depression almost instantly, it took only a week of knowing him for you to consider coming-off of your anti-depressants. That's no small feat, and you know that. He was someone who you were able to bond closely with almost instantly, showing you that "true-love" does exist. He filled that week of your life with laughter, entertainment, love, and trust. And most of all, Phillip showed you just how much love and life a little Green Cheek Conure can bring into your world...So that week that you spent knowing and loving Phillip changed the rest of your life for the better. How many people can you say have done that for you?

You'll never be able to "replace" Phillip and what he brought to your life, and why would you want to...It's not necessary to "replace" Phillip. He's already there, and he'll always be there in the changes he brought in you. What you need to realize that is before you met Phillip and had him in your life, you had no idea that a little bird could alter the rest of your life for the better in the way that he did. He gave you hope, and made you believe that very difficult things were entirely possible. So I hope that you understand that Phillip will always be with you, and he would want you to use what he taught you and to not just abandon the plans that you made.

It's okay to mourn the loss of Phillip, but you don't need to ever "replace" him. What you should do though is to take advantage of what he taught you and take that breeder up on their offer...hopefully you'll be ready to do so in the near future, because it should be quite obvious to you that having a Green Cheek in your life is a very good thing. You can still be happy, you can still better your mental health and get off your meds. That's why Phillip came into your life, to show you just how much a little bird can bring to it...

 

[wrench13]

Oh ! I am sorry to hear of Philip's pasing. I toohavve siffered the loss of a loved parrot. I think the pain and sense of loss will fade a bit and if you are a parrot person, you will have another one in your life. My beloved Max passed away and I was devestated, but you know, 4 months later I met Salty, and while we still remember Maxie, Salty is a totally different parrot and all one could hope for .

Hang in there, we are here for you.

 

[NightEule5]

I'm very sorry that this happened to you, it's never easy to lose a family member, but when someone that you love enters your life and then leaves it so quickly and so suddenly, it's hard to understand why you met them in the first place...I'm not at all religious either, never have been, I usually refer to myself as being "Agnostic", so I understand what you're talking about...

But make no mistake, God or no God, there was a very specific reason that Phillip was brought into your life, you wrote it in your initial post without even realizing it. He helped you with your mental health issues and your depression almost instantly, it took only a week of knowing him for you to consider coming-off of your anti-depressants. That's no small feat, and you know that. He was someone who you were able to bond closely with almost instantly, showing you that "true-love" does exist. He filled that week of your life with laughter, entertainment, love, and trust. And most of all, Phillip showed you just how much love and life a little Green Cheek Conure can bring into your world...So that week that you spent knowing and loving Phillip changed the rest of your life for the better. How many people can you say have done that for you?

You'll never be able to "replace" Phillip and what he brought to your life, and why would you want to...It's not necessary to "replace" Phillip. He's already there, and he'll always be there in the changes he brought in you. What you need to realize that is before you met Phillip and had him in your life, you had no idea that a little bird could alter the rest of your life for the better in the way that he did. He gave you hope, and made you believe that very difficult things were entirely possible. So I hope that you understand that Phillip will always be with you, and he would want you to use what he taught you and to not just abandon the plans that you made.

It's okay to mourn the loss of Phillip, but you don't need to ever "replace" him. What you should do though is to take advantage of what he taught you and take that breeder up on their offer...hopefully you'll be ready to do so in the near future, because it should be quite obvious to you that having a Green Cheek in your life is a very good thing. You can still be happy, you can still better your mental health and get off your meds. That's why Phillip came into your life, to show you just how much a little bird can bring to it...

Thanks for this. I'd never really thought of it that way. My meds were helping, but a week of having a parrot helped way more than 2 years or meds ever did. Regardless of whether he lives on, I guess his impact is still here. It makes sense that my goal shouldn't be to replace him, but instead to experience a totally different personality.

Oh ! I am sorry to hear of Philip's pasing. I toohavve siffered the loss of a loved parrot. I think the pain and sense of loss will fade a bit and if you are a parrot person, you will have another one in your life. My beloved Max passed away and I was devestated, but you know, 4 months later I met Salty, and while we still remember Maxie, Salty is a totally different parrot and all one could hope for .

Hang in there, we are here for you.

Thanks for your support. I'm sorry for you loss of Max, but at least now you have Salty!

 

[LordTriggs]

hey there, It's horrible to hear phillip passed, I know what it's like to only just become attached and then for them to go. nearly 2 years later I'm still dealing with grief from losing my guy, hoping the best for you

 

[NightEule5]

Thanks. I'm sorry about Rio.