NEED ADVICE! l screamed at my conure and Im really scared he’ll never trust me

[mamolis]

Hi everyone, Im literally on the verge of tears right now

I had my conure for about 3 months and so far he eats out of my fingers sometimes. But i made a mistake and that is i screamed sometimes at him.
I really regret it and im scared hell never trust me.
I acreamed at him like 5-7 time and it was like “kiwi shut up!”
Im really sad i love him to death and i dont him to be scared of me.
We do play i hand him this little ball and he throws it and i give it back to him for example.
Is it really serious? Is it permenantly going to effect our relationship? I wont yell at him ever again but im about to cry to be honest

 

[PrimorandMoxi]

We all learn from our mistakes and this will not permanently hurt your long term relationship.
Although sometimes its fun to scream with your birds but not at them.

 

[DonnaBudgie]

We all learn from our mistakes and this will not permanently hurt your long term relationship.
Although sometimes its fun to scream with your birds but not at them.

I wouldn't feel too bad. I think our birds sometimes like it when we scream at them as long as we're not physically violent toward them. Parrots scream at each other (and at nothing in particular) all the time in the wild.

 

[Stitchthestitch]

Breath, its ok . He will be ok and so will your relationship with him i promise. Ive yelled at albie to shut up very recently when i had an awful migraine and we still have a great bond


What is he screaming at ? Is he borded,trying to get your attention,something scaring him,being silly?

What helped me and Albie with minimising the screaming was to have a designated scream off a couple times a week where i join in and its pretty fun and catharthic . Keeping him occupied with mental stimulation such as a forage box or training helps because a tired bird brain is a quiet bird . Training also builds a bond and trust and he has your attention.

If something is scaring him try and figure out what it is so you can move it.

If he just being silly , try distracting him with other sillyness.

Youll both be ok ,really , you will

 

[saxguy64]

Oh thank goodness I'm not the only one who has purposeful scream offs! My YNA Baxter has the sweetest voice when she wants to, but when she wants attention, she has this cranky old woman screamy voice and shouts "HELLO" progressively louder. We have to shout it back and forth with an occasional "Aaaaa" and we both laugh over it. (She has the BEST laugh!) Then I go over to her and say, "see you later" and wave, and she replies with the sweetest, saddest sounding "b'byeee."

 

[Jennifer RachaelAnn]

You shouldn't have anything to worry about. We get mad at each other, and say things we regret. As long as you aren't constantly screaming at him, things should be fine.

 

[Cindylynn]

Like others have said, a good screaming match is sport to a parrot. You likely reinforced the behavior and gave your bird a bit of entertainment.