major issue...not sure what to do.

[Okayestmom]

I have two major issues with my sun conure. But first a bit of background.
He was hatched last August. When I got him, his wings were clipped. He has a play stand in the living room and his massive cage is in the dining room. The cage gets covered at 6:30 every night and he wakes up around 6:30-7:00 in the morning. When his wings were clipped he would hang out on the play stand most of the day and I would take him to his cage several times a day for food and water.
He recently molted and his wings grew in. He has now learned how to fly.

The first issue is that he has started landing on my son (8) and attacking his glasses. If my son walks past me and Mango is on me I get a really nasty bite. My kids don't really pay much attention to him.

He won't stay on his play stand or cage at all. He just wants to be on my shoulder, but gets bored and chews on me. And bites me if my son is close...or goes after my son.

The other issue we are having is that because of covid my husband has been working at home. Mango yells a lot and the last week or so, since he learned to fly has been worse. I have to keep him somewhat quiet during the day. the occasional yell is fine, but non-stop screaming for hours is not ok.

Because of him attacking my kids, I can't let him fly freely around the house. when he's in his cage he yells non-stop. Right now I'm stuck at the dining room table so he won't yell for hours or attack my son.

At this point I really don't no what to do. I don't like the idea of clipping his wings, but feel like I might have to. I don't like the idea of finding him a new home, but my husband's job is more important to our family right now. I feel like all the things I would need to do to make the yelling stop I can't do because I need him to be quiet, even though I know that sitting next to the cage all day is just making it worse.

Help!

 

[noodles123]

Read this on what you can due in terms of screaming and separation issues-
http://www.parrotforums.com/conures/86438-separation-issues.html

Here is another thread--please look at the advice I posted on here--1st reply to original message (including the links in my post--that's where most of the advice is going to be)

http://www.parrotforums.com/conures/85952-son-s-conure-keeps-biting-me.html <---I spent a lot of time responding to those people and I don't want to overwhelm you with walls of text (and I don't want to retype them lol), so just read through my replies on those links, because it is what I would also tell you. The links are all embedded within this link.

He is likely bonded to you and defending you/jealous of your son (who is a threat to his attention). Captive birds will often bite the people they perceive as their mates if they get too close to a "threat" to the relationship (hence, biting you when the son is around and biting your son when he can).

In terms of the screaming, you can't keep placating him..There is no solution unless you 1. wait it out and let him learn that it doesn't work, or 2. agree to basically hang out in the same room forever (which is very unhealthy for both of you)

You must also be very mindful of your reactions when he bites your son (as well as his). I bet you immediately attend to the bird (it's like mom default). A "threat" harms your kid, you address the threat...Problem is, your attention is what that threat likely wanted, and if your kid runs away crying, even better...the threat is gone.

Also-- the glasses may have been the issue initially, but long-term I imagine his bond to you + collective reactions have made this rewarding to him. My bird IS OBSESSED with glasses...I tell people to take them off when they meet her because she will try to grab them and tear them off (so that she can then smash them on her cage top as a CRAZY game/rage/show (hard to know what it is LOL!)