Kyo update… some random rambling

[Kyoto]

Well, hubby is still really having a hard time bonding with Kyo. She will behave around him if I am around, but when I'm not home he can't let her out because she goes right for his face.

I feel terrible… I really wanted her to be a family pet, and she is always fine when I'm in the room with them, but as soon as I leave she seems to start acting up. I know I shouldn't get too upset, as it is still progress, but I wish that he could be able to enjoy interacting with her the way that I get to…. and that he could be comfortable to take care of her on the odd occasion that I couldn't.

We have done everything suggested (thank you to all of the forum members that have helped us) and it seems that she may just never accept him on his own. If she would, her quality of life would be so much better, since he is home almost all day and otherwise happy to let her out. I feel really bummed about it sometimes.

Bite pressure training has been helpful. She is still nippy with me, but it's never bad enough to break skin or do real harm to me anymore. I find that the days I am off work and able to be with her more she is better, and I'm hoping to have more of those days coming up with xmas being over and it slowing down at work.

She is becoming very good about her potty habits now as well. A few times she has even flown back to her cage and gone inside to poop, which I was very proud of her for. Otherwise she knows that her play stand or perches are acceptable places to go. Sometimes when she gets mad at me (like when I won't let her chew on my hands) she will purposely poop on my leg or on the furniture, but that's definitely not happening often.

I am waiting anxiously to see what puberty (it's just around the corner) may bring out of her. It'll be an adventure to say the least. Wish us luck! Hubby and I will keep at it and hope that someday he will be able to give her more time and attention while I am working.

 

[TacoNTiki]

I just want to let you know that your hubby isn't the only one who is not loved by their fid. tiki does not like my husband either, and this past weekend was tough as he got really fed up with him biting him (unfortunately my husband is not as patient as yours). My daughter and I felt really bad as we love tiki to death and vs versa, but he hates hubby. Worse part is tiki won't poop in his cage and I work 8.5 hour days, which means I am gone for 9 hours 3 days a week. DD goes to school and I also bring her to all her after school activities (since I work part time). Hubby is home from work by noon as he starts really early. He lets tiki out to poo, otherwise I can't imaging him holding it till I get home. Tiki doesn't have any appreciation for this and bites him every time. DD and I have a weekend coming up where we will be gone overnight for 3 nights and I am worried sick over it.

Anyway, don't want to ramble too much but just wanted to let you know that your hubby isn't the only one.

 

[GreatBlue320]

Hi - We are having the same issues with Baxter. He is absolutely overbonded to me. He will tolerate my son, and by tolerate I mean, he doesn't immediately lunge at him and will step up for him - occasionally.

It is a different story with my husband. Baxter just doesn't like him at all.

I've told both my human boys they need to spend more time with Baxter should be his primary caretakers during the weekends. I think, over time, LOTS of time, Baxter would get over his aggression towards them. Unfortunately, neither human boy wants to invest this time.

We are going to keep working on it. I'm trying to think of a treat that Baxter would love (besides pine nuts - I use those for training) to have only my son and husband give to him. I also want my son to do training with Baxter without me in the room (Baxter isn't too cooperative with training when I am there).

 

[Kyoto]

It feels better to know that we aren't the only ones struggling.

I am very lucky that my husband is so patient. Bless his heart, he still comes upstairs to visit her a few times a day and gives her treats. maybe someday...

 

[Taw5106]

You are not alone, Buddy loves me, not Husband and he has no problem letting us know. This morning Husband passed his cage and we hear "bam", Buddy striking oh at Husband. Venus is not as bad. She doesn't try to strike but she moves away from him. We've been working with Husband and them both, they tolerate him but if I'm not in the room, forget about it.

 

[JLambert]

I hope for all of your sake that she will begin tolerating him more soon! I worry about this with our new baby, Kiwi. Our last conure loved the whole family (immediate, he wasn't a huge fan of my grandfather). He would fly around looking for my husband and loved to sit on his head. I've convinced him that he needs to cuddle Kiwi as often as we do so that she will become bonded to him like Nemo did. Fingers crossed it will be enough!