What are you after in a parrot, aside from talking? Cuddly? Playful? Who else do you have in your home?
I'm going in to bat for the ringnecks.
Seriously, we had to choose between a grey and a ringneck. Right now in my house there is a sulfur crested cockatoo and a ringneck. (birdsitting the 'too). I've hung out with ekkie's before, my mother has a rose breasted cockatoo and by far I'd choose the ringneck.
We had the finances and time abilities to care for a grey, and experience in handling parrots. Dream come true moment! Then I started doubting my decision, and did some more research. Still not sold, I went to meet Henry when I saw him listed.
Disclaimer: Some will say IRN's can be a little antisocial, or difficult to keep tame. Henry's first owners hand reared him, then he went to into a mechanics class with the tutor every day, spending time with different students. I got him at approx 10 months, after hitting the socialisation jackpot.
Henry has already learned 'peek a boo' 'hello' 'watchyadoin' 'kiss kiss', the sound of the clicker, how to whistle the dog and the message tone on my cellphone. He came to me in April, so still pretty young on it. I am putting in the time though - he's a big bird in a little body. The engagement is still vital.
He loves the foraging puzzle toys, is harness trained, will do target, come and turn around, and is learning a shapes puzzle and to play connect four. His toys are cheaper than big parrot toys
He is far more active and fun to watch than the other family parrots. And because of his size he's less intimidating for the slightly less parroty beloved. He is also confidently handled by our 4 and 6yr olds under supervision.
He takes up just a much time as the big birds, bar cage cleaning. His is in a large small parrot cage, as opposed to a large large parrot cage. But he's on his play stand more than in his cage.
He's certainly not the most cuddly parrot around, but will happily curl up on my shoulder and occasionally rub his cheek against mine while I read.
Google IRN bluffing, forum search bluffing and makesure you read up on bluffing. I've not had enough experience to talk to bluffing - but it's something you need to be ready for and aware of when making a decision.
Keep doing the research. But after years of a grey being a dream parrot, and then being in the position to have one only to end up with a ringneck, I can say hand on heart I'm not sure I'll ever have a grey - Henry genuinely has everything I was looking for in a parrot.
Remember though, each owner, each bird and each set of circumstances are individual - but IRN's have the potential to be awesome.
Good luck!