Sizzlesaur
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Backstory: (question in bold at the bottom)
Her name is Kava. She is an incredibly sweet 6 to 7 y/o GCC girl. She loves to talk back and forth and eat the books on our shelves, but she will not come out of her cage. Aside from me opening the top up and her roaming freely around it, she doesn't want to touch or be touched. I have accepted this and have been trying to work with her for some time to put her more at ease and build trust.
Kava was given to us because her previous owner was injured and was getting too old to continue caring for her. I had taken care of a Macaw before so I was up to do everything I could to love/care for her. they sold us her cage and we decided to keep it all the same so she could be more comfortable with the transition. Her bed is made out of a blanket that was cut up and wrapped around what looks like a bottomless coffee can without sharp edges and it was all held together with safety pins. (we didn't realize this until about a week of Kava being here).
We left her alone and let her come to us as often as possible and have been trying to build trust ever since. (something like 4 to 5 months)
Last night she was picking at the thing holding her bed up (I'm guessing an old hanger straightened out) and she pulled it down. We knew she would need a new bed at some point so we bought one just in case, but we knew if we changed the bed out without her ever leaving her cage, it would undo all of the trust we had built with her. I try not to blatantly invade her space unless I absolutely have to. I didn't want her to hurt herself, so i removed the (metal wire?) hanger and bed but I really did not want to put the old bed back in there so she could eventually find her way to the safety pins and it had now fallen in her poop. So I hung her new bed up in there and she is less than pleased and really really upset with me. Puffed up, bit me a few times (bites worth mentioning), agitated at the sight of me, bobbing her head and rubbing it against whatever she is comfortable with. I feel awful and I imagine she feels violated.
TL;DR Question:
Should I find a way to fix her old bed and put it back in there? I feel so bad and i don't want her to be unhappy or lose any more trust than she already has. I have only gotten her to step onto my hand twice and she was not having it at all tonight, even trying to lure her with a treat onto my hand so I could fix everything. Is there a proper way I should hang the bed? Should I have handled this differently? Should I be caring for her differently? I don't want to force her to do anything she doesn't want to do, but i also need to be able to wipe any poop off of her cage without her having a meltdown too. I don't yell, I don't discipline and try to focus on only positive reinforcement. I change her water about 3 to 4 times a day and give her new food each day. She goes to sleep between 8 and 9 pm and wakes up between 7am and 9 am.
She loved her previous owner so much and I feel so bad that they had been separated and I just want her to feel as loved as she was before or as close as possible and I feel like I am doing something that she doesn't like without realizing it, which is keeping her her from trusting me and keeping me from being able to care for her in ways.
I don't know what else to say or ask. Thank you so much for your time and effort.
Nate
I tried to stay within the boundaries of the rules. I apologize if I didn't.
Her name is Kava. She is an incredibly sweet 6 to 7 y/o GCC girl. She loves to talk back and forth and eat the books on our shelves, but she will not come out of her cage. Aside from me opening the top up and her roaming freely around it, she doesn't want to touch or be touched. I have accepted this and have been trying to work with her for some time to put her more at ease and build trust.
Kava was given to us because her previous owner was injured and was getting too old to continue caring for her. I had taken care of a Macaw before so I was up to do everything I could to love/care for her. they sold us her cage and we decided to keep it all the same so she could be more comfortable with the transition. Her bed is made out of a blanket that was cut up and wrapped around what looks like a bottomless coffee can without sharp edges and it was all held together with safety pins. (we didn't realize this until about a week of Kava being here).
We left her alone and let her come to us as often as possible and have been trying to build trust ever since. (something like 4 to 5 months)
Last night she was picking at the thing holding her bed up (I'm guessing an old hanger straightened out) and she pulled it down. We knew she would need a new bed at some point so we bought one just in case, but we knew if we changed the bed out without her ever leaving her cage, it would undo all of the trust we had built with her. I try not to blatantly invade her space unless I absolutely have to. I didn't want her to hurt herself, so i removed the (metal wire?) hanger and bed but I really did not want to put the old bed back in there so she could eventually find her way to the safety pins and it had now fallen in her poop. So I hung her new bed up in there and she is less than pleased and really really upset with me. Puffed up, bit me a few times (bites worth mentioning), agitated at the sight of me, bobbing her head and rubbing it against whatever she is comfortable with. I feel awful and I imagine she feels violated.
TL;DR Question:
Should I find a way to fix her old bed and put it back in there? I feel so bad and i don't want her to be unhappy or lose any more trust than she already has. I have only gotten her to step onto my hand twice and she was not having it at all tonight, even trying to lure her with a treat onto my hand so I could fix everything. Is there a proper way I should hang the bed? Should I have handled this differently? Should I be caring for her differently? I don't want to force her to do anything she doesn't want to do, but i also need to be able to wipe any poop off of her cage without her having a meltdown too. I don't yell, I don't discipline and try to focus on only positive reinforcement. I change her water about 3 to 4 times a day and give her new food each day. She goes to sleep between 8 and 9 pm and wakes up between 7am and 9 am.
She loved her previous owner so much and I feel so bad that they had been separated and I just want her to feel as loved as she was before or as close as possible and I feel like I am doing something that she doesn't like without realizing it, which is keeping her her from trusting me and keeping me from being able to care for her in ways.
I don't know what else to say or ask. Thank you so much for your time and effort.
Nate
I tried to stay within the boundaries of the rules. I apologize if I didn't.