Husband and Toby

[angeleden353]

My husband has been trying to interact with Toby the past month or so and he is getting more aggressive and we are not sure what to do? My husband tries to get him out the cage and will not let him out until he gets on his perch and makes him step up on his hand. Should I make him do the same thing when getting him out his cage? My husband wants a relationship with him and I know he needs to do things for him but its just like he is always so moody with him. Also when he bites him, should my husband leave him alone or keep trying to get him to do the things he wants him to do. I just need some more advice. My husband wants some answers to help him have a relationship with him.

 

[roxynoodle]

Is he better with your husband if you aren't home or are out of sight and sound? That often helps if the favorite person isn't a choice for the bird.

It may also help if he handles Toby in a room he doesn't normally go into because it's not Toby's "territory". Toby may see the room his cage is in and you as belonging to him. So he will defend it against an intruder, especially another male.

Likewise if Toby is clipped or harnessed he may be nicer to your husband outside, or in an entirely different location like the park or someone else's house.

Many here have also suggested having you (the favored person) hand the bird to your husband to show the bird you are an accepted flock member.

You husband should also try being the one who feeds him and always gives him special foods he likes.

 

[cnyguy]

Your husband might try just sitting beside Toby's cage and talking quietly to him, without insisting that Toby come out of the cage unless he wants to. Parrots are usually more cooperative when things are done on their terms rather than ours. Your husband can also offer Toby some favorite treats while Toby's in his cage. That may help Toby get more comfortable with your husband, and lead to Toby stepping up more readily.