Iām really sorry if this comes off out of touch, I know theyāre very big things going on in the world but I feel like I need to tell people this and get advice.
We have a woman that cleans our house, she cleaned my mothers house for many years, she helped raise me and has worked for her family for more than 30 years. She comes to my house three times a week. She stays for three or four hours on two of the days that I am around the house and on Tuesdays she cleans all day. I am almost always at another property Tuesday night doing maintenance and checking up.
My mother and I both have birds and a very specific about the products that are used to clean our house, We just use steam, vinegar, lemon and grapefruit seed oil. I do let her use commercial products on the bathrooms at the far end of our home.
One of my girlfriends who also has birds had left something in my house and dropped by to grab it yesterday while I was away, she called me and said āhey Iām sure you already know this is bad but just in case you cannot have those cleaning products in your bird room.ā I asked her what she meant and told her that we only use non toxiC products- She said I should go to the house and check in, I decided to drive home.
The woman who works for us had pulled the cages to the center of the room and was washing the walls with industrial strength degreaser. A chemical product you cannot even buy in stores, the crap they use at restaurants. I was super panicked and trying to talk to her and get my birds out. I really do not think I was accusatory or aggressive with her at all but she came back super defensive. She said something like āIāve been using this for years around your birds and I used it at your mothers house, they have always been fine and it was perfectly OK until you knew I was using itā
I honestly said some things I really shouldnāt have to her, but I couldnāt believe she said that and that sheās been lying to us for years. I buy her all of her cleaning products, I pay her very well (We are the only people she works for right now, she doesnāt clean any other houses and shes still comfortable). Woman has lived with us on and off, she helped raise me.
It really did not end on good terms, I did not fire her but I donāt know if she will ever come back or if I would be comfortable with it. I simply cannot clean this house alone, itās more than 12,000 ft.². To top it off we are moving across the country in less than two months now and it Has to be clean and presentable enough to have it on the market. This woman was close enough to my family she was moving with us. I have been crying all day and I feel pretty stupid for it but I just donāt know what Iām going to do. I know we can hire some temporary companies especially putting the house on the market. Itās so hard to find people youāre comfortable with to be in your home all the time and we have had people steal from us before. I feel so stupid about being so upset I just donāt know what weāre going to do, I really canāt do all of this alone. I know Iām over reacting Emotionally because itās such a stressful time with the move etc. but I really Donāt know what to do. This falling out honestly hurts like a break up and doing all of this work alone seems so monumental and intimidating. My husband cannot help me pack this house, he works 12 hours a day at the hospital. How do I even find someone who will get this house market ready using Just steam? My birds seem fine, I move them to another room so at least thatās a positive
We have a woman that cleans our house, she cleaned my mothers house for many years, she helped raise me and has worked for her family for more than 30 years. She comes to my house three times a week. She stays for three or four hours on two of the days that I am around the house and on Tuesdays she cleans all day. I am almost always at another property Tuesday night doing maintenance and checking up.
My mother and I both have birds and a very specific about the products that are used to clean our house, We just use steam, vinegar, lemon and grapefruit seed oil. I do let her use commercial products on the bathrooms at the far end of our home.
One of my girlfriends who also has birds had left something in my house and dropped by to grab it yesterday while I was away, she called me and said āhey Iām sure you already know this is bad but just in case you cannot have those cleaning products in your bird room.ā I asked her what she meant and told her that we only use non toxiC products- She said I should go to the house and check in, I decided to drive home.
The woman who works for us had pulled the cages to the center of the room and was washing the walls with industrial strength degreaser. A chemical product you cannot even buy in stores, the crap they use at restaurants. I was super panicked and trying to talk to her and get my birds out. I really do not think I was accusatory or aggressive with her at all but she came back super defensive. She said something like āIāve been using this for years around your birds and I used it at your mothers house, they have always been fine and it was perfectly OK until you knew I was using itā
I honestly said some things I really shouldnāt have to her, but I couldnāt believe she said that and that sheās been lying to us for years. I buy her all of her cleaning products, I pay her very well (We are the only people she works for right now, she doesnāt clean any other houses and shes still comfortable). Woman has lived with us on and off, she helped raise me.
It really did not end on good terms, I did not fire her but I donāt know if she will ever come back or if I would be comfortable with it. I simply cannot clean this house alone, itās more than 12,000 ft.². To top it off we are moving across the country in less than two months now and it Has to be clean and presentable enough to have it on the market. This woman was close enough to my family she was moving with us. I have been crying all day and I feel pretty stupid for it but I just donāt know what Iām going to do. I know we can hire some temporary companies especially putting the house on the market. Itās so hard to find people youāre comfortable with to be in your home all the time and we have had people steal from us before. I feel so stupid about being so upset I just donāt know what weāre going to do, I really canāt do all of this alone. I know Iām over reacting Emotionally because itās such a stressful time with the move etc. but I really Donāt know what to do. This falling out honestly hurts like a break up and doing all of this work alone seems so monumental and intimidating. My husband cannot help me pack this house, he works 12 hours a day at the hospital. How do I even find someone who will get this house market ready using Just steam? My birds seem fine, I move them to another room so at least thatās a positive
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