I have had my Green Cheeked Conure, Anzu, for a little over a year now, and it has until now been a wonderful experience. We were fully bonded, and with a lot of work I got her to bond with the rest of my family as well.
As last week was Thanksgiving, we had a lot of distant relatives come over. I was really hesitant to let her out around others, as she gets territorial over me and my dad (one of the main reasons I had a hard time getting her to bond with the rest of my family), but I took her out to show one of my aunts when it was just the two of us in the room. Sure enough, my bird had gotten defensive and wasn't happy that my aunt was sitting close by and jumped off my hand to bite her. My aunt yelped and pulled her hand away before she got bit, but I had instinctively grabbed the bird with both of my hands and carried her over to her cage and put her in right away. I immediately recognized this as a disaster and hadn't taken Anzu out for the rest of the day.
Next morning, when I went to take her out as a part of my normal morning routine, she refused to step onto my hands like she normally would and when I kept insisting she began biting my hand very hard with no warning. I had had no experience on what to do when a bird starts biting at this time, so I did ALL the wrong things. I quickly yanked away, yelled at her, and bopped her head with the finger she bit. I foolishly tried to pick her up again and was of course met with the same response. I tried this again two more times throughout the day and we both reacted in the same way each time. That night, I did some research and realized the horror of what I had done. I now not only have upset my bird and pulled a bad reaction, but I have now also reinforced it.
I have made a lot of progress on my own since then, as I have gotten my bird to trust me again as long as my hand aren't visible. If I open the cage and walk away (after she tries to bite my fingers through the bars) she will fly onto my shoulder and behave normally. She will respond to my chirps and will still talk back to me. She will even still lean up against my head and fall asleep if shes on me for a while. However, if I even try to lift my hand up to scratch my head she immediately gets defensive and will chase my hand to chomp down then quickly run back to my shoulder. The best I can do is offer her food with my hand, where she will only give a warning nibble on my fingers before peacefully eating the food. Thankfully, she only distrusts my hands, as she still fully trusts the rest of my family.
This is obviously unacceptable behavior, and I have run out of ideas for how to help her regain trust in my hands. I had educated myself with what to do when I am now bitten, but that has only gotten me this far. I was hoping this would go away with time but it has now been a week and my hands are very cut up. I am desperate for any help or advice anyone may have.
As last week was Thanksgiving, we had a lot of distant relatives come over. I was really hesitant to let her out around others, as she gets territorial over me and my dad (one of the main reasons I had a hard time getting her to bond with the rest of my family), but I took her out to show one of my aunts when it was just the two of us in the room. Sure enough, my bird had gotten defensive and wasn't happy that my aunt was sitting close by and jumped off my hand to bite her. My aunt yelped and pulled her hand away before she got bit, but I had instinctively grabbed the bird with both of my hands and carried her over to her cage and put her in right away. I immediately recognized this as a disaster and hadn't taken Anzu out for the rest of the day.
Next morning, when I went to take her out as a part of my normal morning routine, she refused to step onto my hands like she normally would and when I kept insisting she began biting my hand very hard with no warning. I had had no experience on what to do when a bird starts biting at this time, so I did ALL the wrong things. I quickly yanked away, yelled at her, and bopped her head with the finger she bit. I foolishly tried to pick her up again and was of course met with the same response. I tried this again two more times throughout the day and we both reacted in the same way each time. That night, I did some research and realized the horror of what I had done. I now not only have upset my bird and pulled a bad reaction, but I have now also reinforced it.
I have made a lot of progress on my own since then, as I have gotten my bird to trust me again as long as my hand aren't visible. If I open the cage and walk away (after she tries to bite my fingers through the bars) she will fly onto my shoulder and behave normally. She will respond to my chirps and will still talk back to me. She will even still lean up against my head and fall asleep if shes on me for a while. However, if I even try to lift my hand up to scratch my head she immediately gets defensive and will chase my hand to chomp down then quickly run back to my shoulder. The best I can do is offer her food with my hand, where she will only give a warning nibble on my fingers before peacefully eating the food. Thankfully, she only distrusts my hands, as she still fully trusts the rest of my family.
This is obviously unacceptable behavior, and I have run out of ideas for how to help her regain trust in my hands. I had educated myself with what to do when I am now bitten, but that has only gotten me this far. I was hoping this would go away with time but it has now been a week and my hands are very cut up. I am desperate for any help or advice anyone may have.