could i get an opinion?

[Conuregirl]

here's the situation.. my hub was invited to a bachelor party by the cousin of a guy getting married. my hub hasn't seen the guy in 5 or 6 years. my hub did work with this guy for a short time, over 10 years ago and was a family friend. so this dude that's getting married even arranged his bachelor party and sent evite invitations himself. oh yeah, this is the second local bachelor party. there was one earlier that was out of town. i was surprised that they are charging for the party to do an event and drinks, i thought the best man pays and plans the thing :20:. but whatever lol

my hub was invited to the sausage fest but not to the wedding. :18: he didn't even know when the wedding was. i told my dude, had i known you weren't invited to their wedding, then dont go to the bachelor party. right, it's like your on the d list? lol :34: i told my hub i wasn't going to the wedding, cause i hate large crowds and it's a waste of money. it's like going to your old boss' nupitals :24: if it's not family or good friend, why go? i'm look an old man, i hate going to weddings.:18_crazy: :vomit-smi my wedding was short and sweet, less than 30 people lol... you know what? mine rocked and we played punk music! i digress

i know this is kind of a pointless but what do you think?:06: i felt it was really low brow to get invited to the sausage party and not the other thing.... btw they charged to go to this thing and i surmised that they were trying to squeeze some money out of people (the more people go, the cheaper it is kind of rate).

 

[paulhanlon]

Nice to know your hubs so called friend has the nerve to invite him to the sausage fest but not the actual wedding the dude sounds like a real butt hole to me if i was your hub I'd tell the guy to shove his sausage fest where the sun don't shine if that happened to me I would tell him straight forward that being invited to a sausage fest but not the actual wedding is extremely degrading honestly I think your hubby should tell him where to go besides the way you described the guy he sounds like a total screw job

 

[kc_y0]

I agree, inviting to the bachelor party but not the wedding sounds dodgy to me! I wouldn't make the time or effort for someone like that!

 

[MaraWentz]

Ya, sorry to make his 'friend' seem like a jerk, but if the shoe fits wear it. He invites him to bachelor's party to save money (and if I were a guy and best man I would NOT be paying for TWO parties either), if he invites him to the wedding that means another expensive reception meal, more liquor being drank and more wedding favours being used.

 

[paulhanlon]

Can't say I don't agree with Mara on that one not being invited to the wedding but to be invited to only the bachelor party I know what I'd rather do stay at home with my girl snughled on the sofa with a few cold beers and a takeaway lol

 

[Alisana]

I agree with the others here. Sounds like he was invited to off-set the costs of the party seeing as it was "pay your own" =\ Pretty dodgy.

 

[MaraWentz]

Can't say I don't agree with Mara on that one not being invited to the wedding but to be invited to only the bachelor party I know what I'd rather do stay at home with my girl snughled on the sofa with a few cold beers and a takeaway lol

Does your girlie read this? Kiss up.... lol:09:

 

[lexx510]

If he wasn't even invited to the wedding, your husband has no obligation to go to the bachelor's party whatsoever.

My best friend recently got married. But instead of a strip club, we went on a deep sea fishing trip for his bachelor's party. So it wasn't your typical sausage fest, lol.

Conuregirl - I hate weddings for the same reasons as you. I have to say, your wedding sounds like it was really cool, though!

 

[paulhanlon]

Can't say I don't agree with Mara on that one not being invited to the wedding but to be invited to only the bachelor party I know what I'd rather do stay at home with my girl snughled on the sofa with a few cold beers and a takeaway lol

Does your girlie read this? Kiss up.... lol:09:

No I don't have a girlie as of yet lol was just making a point if i did have one lol

 

[MaraWentz]

Can't say I don't agree with Mara on that one not being invited to the wedding but to be invited to only the bachelor party I know what I'd rather do stay at home with my girl snughled on the sofa with a few cold beers and a takeaway lol

Does your girlie read this? Kiss up.... lol:09:

No I don't have a girlie as of yet lol was just making a point if i did have one lol

Oh so you're just gonna leave this up on your computer the day you have a girl over huh lol how coincidental....

 

[lokiNotis]

I agree with everyone else. I wouldn't go either. Just sounds like they want to save money. I am with you about the wedding thing. I don't like them either. I personally think its a waste of money. You are just as married if you go down to the justice of the peace. At my wedding there was maybe 10 people and I wouldn't change it for the world. The money we saved we put a down payment on our house. Money better spent IMO!

 

[SpringCottageParrot]

I would like to offer an opinion contrary to the flow:
Weddings are expensive and it is the custom in the UK for the reception to be paid for by the Brides parents (this may not be the case where you are but bear with me) so the groom sometimes feels under pressure not to invite too many guests from his own friends especially if the brides side is likely to be swamped.
So what is the problem with the groom having a stag party for all his old mates as a last fling before settling down?

 

[LittleGreenBird]

It seems like it is the new trend now to have a 'stag' party, with the money from ticket sales to be put towards the costs of the wedding- seems like it's "Come to my party and pay for your own beer and food." I think it is kind of scuzzy, but so many people I know are doing it. My fiance just went to one last night and he doesn't even know the guy- the guy having it is a friend of a friend of his brother. I'd rather have a cheap wedding and not solicit my friends for cash, but I guess I'm old fashioned.

 

[luvmytooo]

btw they charged to go to this thing and i surmised that they were trying to squeeze some money out of people (the more people go, the cheaper it is kind of rate).

The more , the merrier and the cheaper is exactly right , lolol.
And I have heard of people going to the bachelor/bachelorette parties and not going to the wedding due to having to invite so many freakin relatives that you will never see again BTW ,that you cant invite all your friends , so they make you feel better and just go to the parties that really count
Just saying , lolol.