Are these people rude?

[WannaBeAParrot]

I know this may sound like no big deal, but it is really bothering me. My 76 yr old aunt invited us out to dinner (adult nieces and nephew) to a well-known and respected casual family restaurant famous for 100 different burgers, big variety of salads, grill foods. Moderately priced, a mile from her home. One niece picked two other places and texted a request to go to one of them because her 30 year-old self-centered son doesn't like the restaurant. They requested places further away from my aunt and more pricey.

I feel like they r acting like ingrates. My aunt didn't know what to say, so she agreed to switch. It s for tomorrow.

 

[getwozzy]

IMO that's completely rude!!!

 

[thekarens]

If I'm invited to dinner I say, "thank you," not take me somewhere else. That's very rude. If you're invited and you don't like the restaurant either don't go or pretend for one night.

 

[getwozzy]

If I'm invited to dinner I say, "thank you," not take me somewhere else. That's very rude. If you're invited and you don't like the restaurant either don't go or pretend for one night.

EXACTLY what I was going to say!! Lol

 

[WannaBeAParrot]

I know! I'm so pissed at them. Tomorrow i am going to ask the spoiled nephew (my cousin) ... So what is about the other restaurant you dislike so much that wouldn't be able to just go there when invited?

 

[Mike17]

Crikey, an invite to a place with 100 burgers lol. We're lucky to have a choice of 6 burgers:11:

Seriously that's uber-rude and the nephew deserves a clip around the ears for being such an ungrateful dork. I'd just tell him where to go (i.e. "well away") if a choice of 100 burgers isn't sufficient to satisfy his craving for luxury (says me who'd walk right past a million burger joint to have a plate of vindaloo and saffron rice).

 

[tab_xo]

Gosh that is rude..

Surely there is something on the menu he would eat? -_-

I am the fussiest eater in the world, but if i HAVE to go to dinner, then i still go, and usually just have some hot chips.. Or after just get some mcdonalds on the way home hahaha

 

[Betrisher]

Pig ignorant, IMHO! Goodness, when someone asks you out, you either accept or reject the invitation. If you accept, you go and eat whatever's on your plate and say 'thank you'. If you reject, you don't have a problem and neither does the person who asked you. I'd be asking the precious nephew why he thought his 'special needs' were greater than the happines of the lovely aunt who asked him out for the evening. Common courtesy is not so common these days, I think.

 

[Kinny]

I am appalled. If someone invites you out to dinner, especially an elderly family member, even if its not a great place, if the host enjoys it, so be it. Either accept on her terms or decline the invitation. Your poor aunt.. I feel so sorry for her.. That selfish son will wonder what hit him when his mother lets him out into the world on his own where the world WILL NOT revolve around him and solely him. How disgraceful!


Haha mike! I'm the same.. Ill walk quite happily past any 5 star restaurants.. Just to have me some Indian curry! Mango chicken, butter chicken, biryani, vindaloo, madras.. You name it I'm there! OOH And raita!

I agree Betrisher .. Common courtesy and sense are not quite so common any more unfortunately.. The way our elderly are so mistreated now... *growls deeply* I may only be 22 but i have common respect for people. -_-

 

[legal_eagle]

It's not really your problem, it's your aunt's. You're a guest too, so I'm not sure that it would be particularly polite for you to insert yourself into your aunt's issue, assuming she has one with your cousin.

 

[WannaBeAParrot]

Thanks for the input. At least I know why this was annoying me so much. And... here's the kicker, Mr. Rudness is an unemployed (by choice) grifter, that is happy to sit around all day playing video games, watching movies, chewing tobbaco and spitting in a disgusting container, buying cigarettes and pop, and letting his mother pay his rent and car payments. The restaurant is a good atmosphere, popular, and great food. Maybe he just likes pusing older folks around. I'm starting to think that.
I only see him about once a year when he flys down to visit his mom for like a month.

 

[Terry57]

I think he is totally rude, and if I were in your shoes I would have to say something to him, out of your Aunt's hearing. We have to take up for and respect our elders, and he needs to learn that.

 

[WannaBeAParrot]

I think he is totally rude, and if I were in your shoes I would have to say something to him, out of your Aunt's hearing. We have to take up for and respect our elders, and he needs to learn that.

Exactly. I am going to find the right moment to do it gently. My aunt did confide that she was upset by this, but it's just a one-time thing so she'll go along with him.

 

[Birdman666]

It is rude...

If I was your aunt, I probably would have said something to the effect of:
Then I'm sorry you won't be joining us, maybe next time...

OR

That is an excellent idea. We will go to this one this weekend, and we can go to that one next weekend when you are the one picking up the check...

But then, I am known for my subtlety and grace in awkward social situations...

 

[WannaBeAParrot]

Hahaaa. He hasn't picked up a check that his mom didn't pay for in years.

And... to boot... the message was texted to auntie by Mr. 30 year-old prince's mother. LOL, not even a phone call.

It takes all kinds. I'm glad he doesn't have any pets.... too selfish.

 

[WannaBeAParrot]

Update:
This is funny (but not). Mr. Rudeness orders dinner with a bowl of soup to start. After a while I noticed he hadn't eaten ANY of his soup and it was pushed to the side while we were waiting for our dinners to be brought to table. I ask "is there somethng wrong with your soup". He says, no, but he doesn't want it for now; he wants it wrapped to take home and eat later or tomorrow. I'm sorry, but WTF is that? Ordering take-home food when you are a guest?!!! .

 

[Terry57]

Wow, he is something else! Did you end up saying anything to him? How did the dinner go (not counting him)?

 

[getwozzy]

OH. MY. GOODNESS. How rude!!!!!!!!! Did you have that little chat with him about manners?? How did the lunch go anyways?

 

[WannaBeAParrot]

Naw, I didn't say anything... Auntie was just beaming and smiling so much, happy to be with her family, and he is her "great" nephew (son of her niece), and she saw him alot as a baby and toddler but hardly ever since then. So, we all just enjoyed sharing stories and stuff. It was very nice.

 

[Terry57]

Good, I am so glad she enjoyed herself! And sometimes it's best to just sit back and watch someone self destruct...his Mom won't always be there to take care of him.